So you want to get your Virgo man back? I’ve got your back.
1. Be humble and gracious about the split
If you want to rekindle your relationship after a breakup, avoid getting overly emotional and exasperated with him. Virgo men are big on practicality, respect, and logical understanding.
If he breaks things off with you, it’s likely because he had valid reasons to. If he mentions some of them, and they seem legitimate, don’t argue with him. Don’t immediately try to convince him why you should stay together.
Acknowledge and take responsibility for the situation and your role in it (even if part of the reason for the split was due to his own shortcomings).
By dropping the ego battle of the breakup and accepting the situation humbly, he’ll be more open to getting back with you later.
2. Give him the space and time he needs to process things
Time and space apart are essential following a breakup.
To get him back, it’s best to stop communicating with him for a short period of time. Drop all communication – texting, calling, running into him in person – for at least a couple weeks.
- It gives him a chance to release the energy and negative associations around your breakup.
- It gives him an opportunity to miss you and what you offered him.
- It gives you a chance to collect yourself and gain some perspective on the relationship.
- It gives you a chance to reevaluate your life and start focusing on yourself again (more on how that helps later).
By taking this time apart to contemplate, you’ll both develop a clear sense of what it’s like to fully be without one another.
If your relationship truly is meant to be, he’ll start to miss you again and will be drawn back to you.
3. Focus on improving your life
Virgo loves self-improvement. So take care of yourself after your breakup, even better than you did before.
Prove that you are adaptable by making changes to yourself that will improve your life in ways that would make your partnership more workable.
By quickly putting yourself first again and treating yourself well, instead of letting yourself fall in a slump by constantly dwelling on him, you display high value.
What areas should you focus on improving in your life? Start with the traits that you know contributed to the breakup. In most cases, troubles with a partner reflect issues within yourself that you can improve on your own.
Picture how you would want your relationship changed if you were to get back together and behave in ways that support that vision.
Consider developing new skills. Are there any skills or projects that you or your Virgo man discussed working on while together, or any personal ones that you’ve neglected?
4. Be dependable and available
If you were in together with your Virgo man for a long period your routines would have inevitably meshed together.
He loves being of practical support for his partner, so he no doubt helped you out a lot, as I’m sure you did for him as well.
If you’re on a talking basis now (ideally, after a sufficient no contact period), be sure to make yourself available for anything he needs. Don’t outright ask if you can help him with something (he won’t appreciate you trying to insert yourself back into his life). But do inquire about some of the projects he likes to work on that you know about. In particular, inquire about projects that you’d helped him with in the past.
If he’s feeling open to you, he might very well ask you to give him some assistance, like the old times. Jump on this opportunity! It’s a great way to get yourself involved in his day to day again.
4. Remind him that you care in little gestures
Virgo’s love and appreciate the small gestures in a romantic relationship.
When you were together, I’m sure there were some little supportive things that you routinely did for him. Something to make him feel supported, understood, and appreciated.
You’re no longer together, so you can’t go all out with kind gestures to ramp up his feelings for you. But you might be able to lightly show him you care without coming across as overbearing or needy.
Now, if you aren’t talking or communicating at all with each other, this would perhaps be too difficult. But if you do have some contact, find some ways to do something subtle that you know he’d appreciate. It will make him feel valued and will give him a bit of nostalgia for all the affectionate times you shared.
It could be as simple as comforting his overactive mind. You likely already know the things that tend to stress him out. So you might want to lightly bring up the topic and allow him to vent to you if he feels so inclined.
5. Win over his family
This is a subtle little trick, albeit slightly underhanded.
This will only work if you have already established a connection with his family. Which you likely did if at any point your relationship was serious.
Family is so important to the Virgo man. He’s always wanting to do what’s right for his family. If his family treated you well while you were together, see if you can still nurture that relationship.
His heart connects through his family, so if you succeed in winning them over, their affection for you could influence his heart and warm him back up to the idea of being with you.
Watch out if he doesn’t have a good relationship with his family, though. As you’ll likely just scare him further away.
If he doesn’t come back, remember that there is going to be someone else who is better for you.
If your relationship ended and it’s not looking like things are going to be rekindled, even after your attempts to re-ingratiate him to you, it’s probably best to move on.
This is especially true if he didn’t treat you very well at any point in the relationship. If he was ever physically or emotionally abusive or refused to take blame or responsibility in the relationship, then it’s for the best that you guys are no longer together.
Remember that no matter if you do or don’t get back with your Virgo guy, you are still valuable and still have the power to create the life and relationships you want.
If you’re really struggling with self-esteem since your separation, try to put your focus on yourself and improving your own life, rather than pining for him and the comfort your relationship gave you.
Sometimes being alone shows us the ways we have been neglecting ourselves. If you’ve been working diligently on this, and improving yourself, don’t give up if he doesn’t come back to you. Keep improving, and a better man for you will show up in time. If you really want to improve your chances of getting back with your Virgo guy, read my course on attracting Virgo men.
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