5 Signs a Virgo Man is Jealous (+ 5 Ways to Make Him Jealous)

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You’re about to learn the subtle signs that a Virgo man is jealous. You’ll also learn some clever ways to get him jealous (if that’s what you want).

I’ll assume you’re here for one of three reasons:

  1. You think a Virgo guy is jealous because of you or someone else, but you’re not sure.
  2. You want a Virgo guy to be more attracted to you, and are considering making him jealous to accomplish that.
  3. You’re already with a Virgo guy and are worried that he’s become jealous and you want to avoid it from sabotaging your relationship

Related: 5 Virgo Spirit Animals that Perfectly Represent the Sign

If you fall into any of those categories, I’ve got you covered in this post.

Jealousy is a tricky subject, but by the end of this post, you’ll feel confident in your ability to soothe (or inflame) the jealous desires of a Virgo man.

Let’s get to it!

First, here are five clear signs that he’s jealous:

Related: 12 Clear Signs That a Virgo Man Likes You

1. He clearly doesn’t like it when you talk to other guys

The Virgo man is very relationship-focused. When he’s with a partner (or is trying to create a relationship) he will often act like they’re already a married couple.

His desire to bond and establish a close relationship combined with his tendency to anxiously overthink can make him possessive and prone to jealousy.

Note how he responds when you talk to another male friend around him or discuss positive interactions with a male co-worker. If his body language shifts to a closed or uncomfortable posture, or his tonality shifts to critical or snarky, that’s a clear sign that he’s feeling jealous and threatened.

Related: 7 Essential Things to Know About Dating a Virgo Man

2. He plays things (too) cool

Virgo guys are cautious and don’t like to reveal their emotions, especially weak ones. He’s reserved and won’t show jealousy like a hot-headed Fire sign or emotionally reactive Water sign.

So if he’s suddenly started to get a bit cold around you and has retreated a bit, overthinking around jealousy could be the culprit.

He can retreat for other reasons, too. I explain more about this in my course on attracting him.

Related: 7 Simple Ways to Make a Virgo Man Miss You Like Crazy

3. He starts talking a lot about loyalty and trust

Virgo men are more possessive than jealous. He’s incredibly loyal and he expects his significant other to respect that and be loyal as well.

If he’s starting to feel tinges of jealousy, he might indirectly try to address it by discussing the notions around loyalty and trust in relationships. He might talk about it abstractly concerning other people’s relationships, or, if he’s bold, about the two of you.

Related: 7 Potent Ways to Make a Virgo Man Deeply Obsessed with You

4. He’s started sulking around you

Virgo’s often have a hard time with their inherent nature. They’re perfectionists and highly-critical of themselves. It can feel like the world is against him sometimes.

He copes with this by becoming a bit mopey and will sulk around when something feels unfair. If he’s sulking around you and generally being broody, jealous feelings could be the culprit.

Related: 7 Key Things to Know About Virgo Men in Bed

5. His controlling side takes over

Virgo men love control. Most of the time they direct it at themselves, with just a little bit directed at their partner’s life and habits.

But a jealous Virgo might react by trying to control his partner in an over-the-top way by trying to make their decisions for them.

He might be trying to plan your schedule by choosing where you go and what you do. He could also try to control your moods and emotions by criticizing you with his logical mind. He might even try to control your friend group or access your passwords.

Related: How to Text a Virgo Man Like an Expert & Keep Him Interested

How to Make a Virgo Guy Jealous

This shouldn’t be too hard of a task, assuming that he’s already into you. Virgo men naturally tend towards possessiveness and clinginess in a relationship.

If he’s not yet that attracted to you, these tactics could spark up his desire for you by creating a bit of opportunity for his competitive side to come out.

But watch out. Trying to make this guy jealous isn’t always the best idea if you want to raise his attraction level. Virgo men desire a serious, modest partner, who he’d want to bring home to mom. Your jealousy-inducing behavior could end up just making him see you as flippant and low value.

Here are five of the (less risky) ways to make him jealous over you:

Related: How to Get a Virgo Man to Chase you Endlessly

1. Have a fun, busy, and attractive social life

This is definitely the best, healthiest way to make him jealous. He likes to compare, and if he sees that you’re high-value (busy, attractive lifestyle) and are around a lot of other men (social), he’ll naturally want to insert himself into your life to compete for your attention.

This creates a subtle form of jealousy. He sees what you have to offer and is motivated to attain you before other men do.

Related: Will a Virgo Man Come Back? 5 Signs he Will (& 5 Signs He Won’t)

2. Create romantic triangles

Men (and women) are motivated by romantic competition. We want what’s in demand before someone else stakes a claim.

Stoke his competitive and possessive nature by spending time with one or two other potentially interested guys.

Be careful though! The Virgo guy can be quite shy and he hates the sting of rejection. So he might back away if he senses that your interest in him might not be very strong.

So makes sure to keep him clued into your interest for him. Don’t be too cold or too flirtatious with other guys. You just want to light a tiny fire under him to stoke the attraction between you, nothing more.

Related: Can Ignoring a Virgo Man Build his Attraction?

3. Don’t always be available

Virgo guys love to talk and communicate with their partners and love interests. He’ll call, text, and video chat regularly if he’s into you.

To make him a little jealous, don’t give him all of your time, and don’t respond back right away to his texts and inquiries about your schedule. Basically, be too busy for him.

Have a social life outside of him, and stick to it. He’ll get jealous of the attention you’re getting from (and giving to) other people. He’ll use his active mind to figure out how to get more of your time and attention.

Related: 10 Powerful Ways to Get a Virgo Man Back After a Tough Breakup

4. Let another guy (or person) help you out

The Virgo guy has a bit of a savior complex. He wants to help his partner in all ways. He wants to fix up their home, to plan out their out life, and to improve their health wellbeing.

A potent way to get him jealous, then, is to accept help from others. He will wish that he was the one who was giving you assistance, knowing how well being of help could ingratiate him into your life.

Related: Who is Virgo’s Soulmate Sign?

5. Dress attractively in social settings

Basically, look good when out on the town, at your game night, or whatever.

He’ll love to see you looking good, and he knows you’ll be attracting the attention of others.

Just make sure that your outfit conveys class. You won’t attract him with skintight clothing or a ton of cleavage. He’s not into that kind of flashiness. Tasteful modesty wins with a Virgo guy. Your challenge is to stand out and look distinctive while also adhering to a modest code of wardrobe. You can do it!

Related: Why are Virgo People So Attractive?


There you go, plenty to digest about the jealousy and the Virgo guy. I have more info about his jealous side, as well as a ton more info about attracting him in my Virgo man attraction course.

Good luck!

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13 thoughts on “5 Signs a Virgo Man is Jealous (+ 5 Ways to Make Him Jealous)”

    1. I’m really confused about this man one minute his all over me the next cold turkey . I just don’t now is he interested isn’t he. I wish he would just tell me so I can move on.

  1. These basically teaches you how to LOSE a Virgo. Smh. You do any of those things to me and I will cut you off for life. I don’t get jealous. I’ll recognize you’re playing games and

    1. You didn’t read the whole article, Alpha Virgo. You’d notice I prefaced by saying trying to make a Virgo man jealous isn’t always the best idea if you want to raise his attraction level, as jealousy-inducing behavior could just make him see you as flippant and low value. Fully agree that some of the ideas are likely to put some less-jealous Virgo men off.

      But, if recommendations like having an attractive social life (1) and dressing attractively (5) would make you cut someone off for life, maybe they’d be dodging a bullet.

    2. I’m glad you posted cause your approach is the one I have taken with the virgo I’m interested in. I don’t want to play games or lie I don’t have the time! I just want to understand why he retreats when he’s upset

    3. I didn’t even try to make a virgo jealous but he gets jealous and makes scenarios up in his head and sulks even if I talk to male colleagues about work.
      I am a virgo woman and I really don’t understand why this virgo man is so sensitive i put it down to insecurity and in all honesty i don’t know how to reassure him so I apologised and gave him his space as he didn’t respond at the time. He now believes that I don’t like him as much as he does, I care about him but can’t deal with the drama that’s in his head as he doesn’t communicate clearly. 😞
      Any advice?

  2. Iam chatting with a Virgo. Iam a Virgo libra . He very controlling and he doesn’t get jealous at all. We been chatting for a month now . He driving me crazy because he wants to take it slow . While I wanted to go a little more faster . It been a month sine we been talking or chatting. Iam getting a little more with him . He find me interesting .like I do too .

  3. Anonymous Scorpion

    I’m in a new relationship with a Virgo now and I read this to see why he’s acting the way he is.. if a male speaks to me in a store or while we are out he goes flamboyant and says I shouldn’t speak to strangers like I’m a kid. One minute he is all over me next he isn’t… he has basically moved in with me like he needs to watch me if I go anywhere he calls after a while like where are you it doesn’t take that long then he plays the communication game oh I don’t communicate by telling him I’m making extra stops… always asking who I was talking to on the phone etc…but he is free to do whatever… There’s so much more but too much for here… I’m a Scorpio and I don’t like to feel like I’m being controlled. I’m starting to feel like this isn’t going to be a good thing.

  4. i love my virgo man so much.. i just feel like fucking him so damn hard everytime i see him.. he is so attractive and i really want to have sex with him

  5. I am Aries married to Virgo man since 1991 we have 2 adult kids. My Virgo was leading a double life with a single woman from work 20 yrs younger than him for eight years before I found out and threw him out. Not so faithful, honest, grounded, loyal, respectable star sign after all.

  6. I am a virgo woman. I have had a relationship in my life once with a virgo guy and I have had a few virgo men interested in me. I can tell you…the best way to make him treat you like he values you and can’t live without you and want to protect you as “his” is to just be the best version of “you” that you can be. It will automatically spark that because we all act like that when we feel we have someone of value and quality in our lives…the reason is… when others see value and quality (beauty inside and out), they will want to attain it regardless of whether it belongs to someone else already or not. So he will automatically be protective of the relationship with you just like you will be protective of the relationship with him if he’s a good thing in your life and if you are attracted to him and in love. You don’t want to set off a series of suspicions in you or the relationship as it will bring about destructive behavior patterns that will eventually kill the relationship. Just be a really beautiful version of you, treat him with love, respect and affection, and you’ll see the love sparks fly! 🙂

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