Do Aquarius guys ever come back after a breakup?
The short answer is: yes. Aquarian men will come back to a relationship when it suits them.
Their hot and cold persona can have them changing their minds on a whim. (They’re also entirely capable of dropping a connection altogether).
But, will your Aquarian guy come back to you?
That’s a bit more complicated. Let’s look and see what we can do to help you figure your situation out.
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In this post, I’ll cover:
- Why your breakup happened (and why that matters)
- Assessing whether it’s worth trying to get back with him
- Some powerful tips to get him to come back to you (if you decide that’s what you want)
If your relationship is meant to be, you’ll find what you need here to get things back on track.
Alight, let’s get to it.
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What went wrong to cause your breakup?
So things have fallen apart between you and your Aquarius man. That sucks.
No breakup is the same. And the circumstances are important when assessing whether he’ll come back to you or not.
- Did he ghost you randomly?
- Did you get into an argument, and he shut down?
- Did you want more commitment, but he wasn’t ready?
- Did he (or you) cheat or otherwise practice infidelity?
If it was a bad breakup, he’s probably gone. This can happen if you don’t establish a potent connection with him.
Aquarian men are notorious for breaking things off and moving on with their life as if nothing happened. They can be ice-cold like that.
But his nature is also variable, and he can switch back to hot suddenly. If you really are special to him, he might eventually wander back as if nothing happened. (So long as you don’t chase him away further – more on that later).
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If he does come back, will it be worth it? Are you even compatible?
I’ve got some great tips for you in the next section. But before we rush into them, take a moment to consider if getting this Aqua guy back is the right choice for you or if you’d be better off moving on.
Here’s a potentially harsh truth: he’s likely gone for good if you weren’t really close or unique to him. And that might be for the best. If you weren’t compatible, you weren’t compatible.
Secondly, if you aren’t highly compatible but he still comes back, you might not have a great time. You could deal with a lot of hot and cold energy and more disappearing acts.
I know you miss him. I know you’re probably thinking about him and trying to figure out how to get back with him. But take the time to consider if he’s the right guy for you.
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Take into consideration what’s essential for you. Put yourself first. For example, maybe he wasn’t ready to commit, but you wanted to, and it drove him away. If you want to find a partner who’s prepared to commit to you, then that’s what you want. Don’t settle for less. If he’s not that guy, he’s not that guy.
Consider the possibility that you don’t need to get back with this guy. If he was the type to put you down or keep you small, you should find greener pastures. And that the breakup was an opportunity for you to grow and move on.
At the same time, maybe he’s your soul mate. And this is just a rocky step in an otherwise fairytale partnership.
If that’s the case, read on and follow these five steps to help nudge him to come back to you:
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How to get your Aquarius man back
The Aquarius man does what he wants. He’s all about freedom and will go wherever his heart desires. Sometimes the whims of his heart tell him to disappear from the people in his life. And disappear, he will. He’s the king of ghosting.
Call it what you will. Unsentimental, perhaps. But it’s the way he is.
It’s all good and fun when you’re hitting things off and spending time together. But not so much when he leaves you.
Getting him back is tricky. You can’t directly manipulate him. Freedom is an essential condition for his relationships. You have to lure him back in a way that makes him want to lean into you again without pressuring him.
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- Give him the space he needs
The most likely scenario is that, whatever happened, he detached himself and shut himself off from you. Aquarius men cope with deeper emotional hurts by distancing themselves.
If he’s going to come back, it’ll be on his terms. You have to give him the space he needs.
You have to be willing to let him go to get him back.
Forcefully trying to get a disenchanted Aquarian man back with you is a recipe for failure. You instead have to be cool about the breakup. This relaxes him. Because the more you try to hold on, the more he’ll distance.
The absolute worst thing you could do is to argue with him or otherwise create drama. All of this feels like you’re pressuring him, which he hates. He needs room to lean into you again. If you don’t give him that room, he will just push you farther away.
You can’t talk your way back into his arms. You have to let go. To get him space. And then show him that you should be together again through your actions.
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- Show him that you’re okay without him
Aquarius men are hyper-individualistic and require partners who are independent as well.
One of the common reasons Aquarius men dip out of a relationship is that they want to feel free again. He might still like you but start to feel trapped by your relationship dynamic.
This may or may not be the scenario of your relationship, but showing him that you’re not desperate to get back with him will win you major points in his eyes.
Showing that you aren’t too shaken by being without him will raise your value in his eyes. It conveys that you’re self-sufficient. That you can handle being alone.
When he sees that you’re okay with being alone, that’s when he’ll feel like it’s safe to come back to you.
So don’t rush to talk to him about what went wrong and how to fix things, especially when the breakup is fresh.
Do your best to be unruffled by the breakup. Carry on with other aspects of your life. Do your best to collect and soothe yourself genuinely. You can’t fake this. He’s got a powerful truth radar and will likely know if you’re genuinely alright or faking to convince him.
The most effective way to get the message across to him is not to contact him.
No calls, no texts, no talking, no contact.
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- Make him see what he’s missing
People break up because something is missing in the relationship.
If he broke up with you, there could be a few causes:
- He created flaws in the relationship
- You created flaws in the relationship
- Or, there was a combination of flaws introduced by each of you
If the answer is number one, then good riddance to him. But more than likely, the answer will be the third option. And to get him back, you’ll want to reassess and reinvent yourself a little bit.
No, this doesn’t mean you need to reactively change who you are, so he’ll want to be with you again. Your response should be the opposite of losing yourself; it should be finding yourself.
Take this opportunity to assess where you are in life and how true you’ve been to yourself.
What did he love most about you when you were happy together? Did you change at all since those peak days? Did you get complacent? Focus on reestablishing those qualities, and he’ll be reminded why he fell for you.
Take inventory of any other flaws in the relationship. If you couldn’t get passed certain disagreements, would it be worth it to you to change your stance? If your breakup reflected similar issues that you’ve had in other relationships, what is the lesson?
Be open, honest, and ready to change things up if you want him to start things up with you again. He loves adventure, so maybe it’s time to go on a trip or excursion that you’ve always wanted to experience. Whatever it takes to feel more fulfilled and confident.
Remember, you should take a break from reaching out to him. But you can get him to see any changes you’re making by haunting his periphery a little bit via mutual social channels.
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- Increase your value by being desired by others
Most people lose touch with friends during and soon after a breakup, so there’s probably a big hole in your social life.
Aquarian men are highly social creatures. He’s probably going to reassert any friendships he’s neglected, and it would send a strong positive signal to him if you did the same.
Better still, start dating again.
I know you want your Aqua man, and he’s likely irreplaceable. But it’ll be healthy for you to feel wanted again, and it makes you more desirable and creates a little scarcity in his mind.
Your rebound-dating life doesn’t have to be serious. Just have some fun (if that’s something you’d enjoy).
If you do date around after your breakup, make sure you’re not doing it to make him jealous. Aquarian men are perceptive, and he’ll likely catch onto this and be repelled.
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Don’t bring up commitment if you start talking to your Aquarian guy again. Just focus on making your conversation light, enjoyable, and flirtatious again.
Don’t talk about the future; just be in the moment and have fun.
Being confident in the moment makes you feel confident about your future, which will make him want to be a part of it again.
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34 thoughts on “Will an Aquarius Man Come Back after a Difficult Breakup?”
I was dating an Aquarius man for over 7 months, during the first 5 months things were great until I started bringing up commitment..
Every-time commitment was brought up he would push me away, i do understand that financially he wasn’t capable and maybe he was looking for a similar spark he had with someone in the past. But I was very open and honest telling him that I can wait for the next few years to see how it goes.
At the end, I requested for the mothers to meet however he straight away shut it down and said he isn’t ready for any commitment because of finances and other family responsibilities.. So it ended in a emotional breakup from both ends.
Its been a 3 weeks now and Im okay without him, however I do feel that the compatibility we had was special and would like to keep him around for the future without making him feel pressured.
Would like to know, how I should be doing this… we dont have any contact via social media so Im completely blocked out ..
Hi Rose. Sorry that the relationship hasn’t gone as planned. At this point, you should wait to have contact again. He felt pressured and likely needs time and space.
Hello, so my aqua man left almost a week ago (we’ve been together 2 years) he came to live with me together to my country but after we had 6 months of distance because of the virus and all that I felt like he was violating my private space and we had big arguments over the house stuff, he finished with 1st in his uni and he didn’t know what he was doing in general, so I saw him really confused and I ask him if we should try together or he needs to go back home and think… when I came home he wrote me 3 pages on his computer how he really felt but he just couldnt put the words together… he thinks I’m his dream girl in a wrong time that he trully loves me but he’s life is in UK he’s work and big opportunities is in UK, I can’t leave from my place as I have already my business and my place and most importantly my father that I can’t leave him on my own… he really asked me to stay for 1 week more I said to him no it has to be done if hes really going back.. He went back the first day he arrived their I was really upset I strarted crying a lot.. second day we talked a little bit.. in general he said he wants to focus on himself and that he wants to find himself and be on his own. he asked me the second day 3 times how i am. I said to me I’m okay but the third time I just told him not to worry about me if his okay I’m okay, I asked him to send me onlyy if he really misses me.. I got him also a gift he received it the next day he really appreciated and sent me a message. on the next day we didnt talk and on the next one I sent him hows he’s doing we started in general a conversation he still want to be left alone he haven’t decided what he still wants, but he told me it hurts him but at the same time he says that this wont work, especially the distance releationship, I told him I’m willing to sacrifice some stuff for him but we both need to sacrifice something to be together. I’m being understanding to him I really try, but it fucks with my mind. I don’t know if he will come back again. I’m giving hes space that he needs to take, I’m showing that I’m okay and he hasn’t deleted yet our pictures from social media. But in general I don’t know..
What zodiac are you tho?
Hi there, just wanted some insight on my story.
So much like others my relationship with my Aquairus man came on hot and heavy. He had to have me as his girlfriend and would do absolutely everything for me. We messaged constantly and he always calls. I had just come out of a long time relationship so I wasn’t looking for anything too serious but I quickly fell in love with him.
Anyway 8 months down the track and he has become distant. We live about 1.5 hours away from each other and I told him that the distance was becoming difficult for me. Once I said that he started to back off. Not acting as sweet as he usually is. The last time we were together he wasn’t acting himself and he said he wanted to be on his own so I took that as an end to the relationship.
Since then he has messaged me everyday telling me he will always be here for me and that he is thinking of me. I try my hardest not to reply to give him the space he’s asked for. When we speak he sounds different and he sounds sincere when he says he still cares for me.
I guess really I want to know if he will come back to me. If we will work it out. My life is not the same without him now. I miss being able to tell him about my day and hearing about his.
Let me know your thoughts thanks, much appreciated. Love a Pisces woman
Hi Chloe. It seems like he’s sending mixed signals. I would feel confused, too! That’s good that you’ve made it clear that the distance wasn’t working well for you. Him backing away after you said that is telling. It appears that he’s withdrawing, which he clued into when he said he wanted to be on his own.
He’s still messaging you every day, though. I wonder if it’s because he really does care for you and misses you, and has just been emotionally closed off due to his issues. Or if he’s actually wanted to move on, but still wants you to feel taken care of.
I would say that I’m not confident that he will come back. I would continue giving him space, and if it’s right, he will come back around to you. In the meantime, work on yourself and be open to new relationships coming into your life
May 28, 2022
I’m a libra woman and an introvert I live in the Philippines while he lives in California (hes an extrovert)… He’s a vtuber and recently got his debut… I’m an artist on the other hand^^ He’s 25 I’m 22 and about to graduate in few weeks…
We just met on stream and he was playing with a friend who happens to know me^^…his and our chat interaction are actually fine and full of laughter…the next day on February 15 in my country UTC+8 he randomly message me… I’m just minding my own business and drawing 2d models for vtubers… As time goes and make the story short^^ our conversations became something deep like we talked about the difference of Philippine culture to US everything goes smoothly…he confesses to me after few days that he was interested in me and we take that step to the next level while holding eachothers hand^^ every conversation we have has a deep meaning to it and lots for laughter XD it was fun and everything is going smoothly…but then last night he asked me if I have time to call him and I said yeah sure…he explain everything to me that hes not mentally and financially stable… He’s technically dealing with too many stuffs in US that I don’t even know if I could say it all here he pretty much explained it thoroughly…I asked him…’are you trying to break up with me’ he didn’t answer with a no and said that he still truly love me but how is he going to help me if even he can’t even takecare of himself… He also tell me that he never tell a single lie and was willing to show me his negative bank account…’youre doing great and I appreciate you and really love you but I need time for myself first’ …I was… sobbing we were talking on the phone… it’s just hard cause his too far away from me… imagine I live in the philippines and hes in the US… I said I could wait for him and will also work my ass off just to be there with him in the US but he declined…he said “Mia don’t wait for me. If it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be. I’m only saying this because I can’t predict the future and I can’t promise you something I’m not sure of. We’re just really good friends right now and I think the best things you can do for me is to be a really good friend to me right now. Only time can tell so we’ll just have to wait and see. Is that something you can do?” is what he says and I agree to it… He also said “I know it’s hard for you and it’s hard for me too. . . But I’m always gonna appreciate having you in my life, and I’m still always gonna be here if you need me for anything and if the time calls for it then yes we can open that back up. But again, I’m not going anywhere and I’m not gonna see you any less just remember that please I just want what’s best you and me right now let’s just get our lives in order first for our own sakes” he said…
And remember it all happened yesterday May 27, 2022 Saturday. I was still sobbing while I’m writing this…I feel so betrayed rn…but I’m still willing to give him the space he wanted… Thanks for this article btw rn idk if I’m doing well but overall I am going to focus on myself for now…get a job since I’ll be graduating soon^^…now I’m just wondering…cause I’m a person who doesn’t really like to share my emotions and how am I feeling with everyone^^… So yeah I’m wondering “how long do you think it’ll take him for us to come back”… I actually don’t know if that time will come but it’s fine…I will do things on my own now and focus on myself and family first^^… But curiousity always hits me…thanks for reading this btw…I really appreciate it^^… And I appreciate any reply^^…I like reading and any answers and reply is acceptable… it’ll help me a lot^^
I met my Aquarius man online. He was full on interested in me. Texting chatting every day for 3 weeks straight. Even sent me a phone. Had a great weekend together then he went back to work/home and I didn’t hear from him.
I’ve put him off with my texting.
I’m not embarrased because i was honest and it was how I was feeling.
I’ve stopped all contact.
What are my chances of him missing me?
Hey Jessica. If the chemistry was good and he really enjoyed his time/chatting with you, then there’s a good chance that he could miss you and come back around. It’s good that you stopped all contact, definitely the best chance to get him missing you.
My aquarius and I dated 8 months. He and I knew each other since childhood but never did really interact on a personal level until this year. He and I got really close and started a relationship, at his urging. Things are moving along great; we love each other, he shares his dreams and ambitions with me, he talked about our future etc. He has a business that he is running and trying to expand which takes a lot of his time; I was always supportive and understood he needs space and time to do his thing and have his me time. I think I can understand because I also am ambitious as well. I never tried to make him feel guilty or anything for his dreams, even told him I believe in him, which I do. A couple weeks ago, he started being distant. He went from talking to me multiple times a day to being quiet. We did have a fight but we got over it and I felt this distance was something else. I finally just asked what is going on. He said he loves me but feels like he doesn’t have the time like he would like to have to make me as happy as he wants me to be. I told him that I really think balance is needed and I wish we could make it work. He agreed and wished the same; then he said that maybe our relationship can work later in life and to remember that he loves me.
I feel like he is not good with balancing his personal and professional life; for instance, when he is giving me a lot of attention, time etc, he is not doing what he needs to do with his business. He has told me things like, he thinks about me all the time and can’t get me out of his mind. Does this mean he feels he has to distance himself from me because of this? It has been a week since the break up and I have not spoken with him since. Does this situation sound like one where he will come back? I feel like our relationship is worth working through but I also understand that we both have to want the same thing.
Sorry for your relationship challenges. His comments about not having enough time to make you happy may be genuine but could also be a way to let you down easy if he’s lost some interest. If he’s truly not great at managing both a personal and professional life, then he might indeed be pushing away to focus on his work. Ultimately, time will tell. I would wait and see if he comes back around. If he’s truly wanting to have a future with you, he will re-engage with you when his work life calms down some.
I got introduced to my aqua man through friends over 2yrs ago. We hit it off immediately, and started spending some time together. He was loving and attentive. Then, his ex showed up, about 6wks after we started dating. We’d been talking for about a month before we went on a date, his relationship with his ex had finished 6mths before, but it was a long term thing for them, so I bowed out and told him to go to her. For 8mths he yo-yo’d between us both until I cut it off completely. I got on with my life, and shockingly he reached out to me 10mths after I walked away. We had a few awkward convos about what happened, and that neither of us wanted it to end like that. He expressed he regretted letting me go, had thought about me a lot since we hadn’t spoke, he was fully done with his ex and would like to try again with me. I told him I couldn’t promise that I could let him in again, but he persevered for 3mths until I agreed to go on a date. For 4mths it’s been amazing, I could not fault him. Until one day, I heard nothing from him… Odd because we’d spoke everyday for the past 7mths, I casually checked in on him, and he advised he’d call me later, he didn’t. Two weeks of missing each other’s calls, and hella anxiety over what was going on, we eventually spoke on the phone. He’s told me he’s been off sick from work with stress, I told him of my concerns of how everything went down before, and that he was acting in similar ways. He has said he has nothing to hide from me, that this isn’t the case at all. I reassured him I’m there for him, and have given him some space. I’ve contacted him once or twice, over the past three weeks, asking about his return to work, letting him know what I’ve been up to etc and kept it light with him. He replies every couple of days. He’s changed his number in the past two weeks, which he gave me as soon as he bought the sim, because ‘there was too much attached to that old number, and I need to clear it out’ What is going on in his head? Has his ex rocked the boat again? Or is it just my insecurity because it’s happened before that’s plaguing my mind? Any insight or advice would be appreciated 🙂
Hi, Paige. I don’t think it’s just your insecurities here. I think something is likely up with him more than just work stress. If he keeps acting like this, I would do what you (smartly) did the first time he started getting flakey, and withdraw a bit and focus on other aspects of your life. He isn’t showing enough consistency or reliability to warrant more from you. What makes it worse is the lack of clarity. So give him a chance to straighten things up with you, but don’t rely on it.
Hi, I’ve been dating my Aquarius boyfriend for over 3 years. We have been in a long distance relationship since the beginning (different coasts). He is also 3 years younger than me. We’ve flown several times to see each other. For us, things go well when we’re together in person. When we’re apart it’s harder because I think we both miss being in person. We have broken up briefly in the past but eventually got back together; it was mostly me messaging him a lot. He wanted space and I wasn’t able to give because it’s hard when we’re already so far. Things went pretty good after the break up; I had moved closer to him and we were seeing each other a lot. I had to leave due to Covid to come back to my hometown. We talk about living together and getting married eventually. And I’ve been hoping he will move closer to me this time. I neglected him one night when he needed me due to being preoccupied with my own issues. It was not his fault but I still ended up being unhappy with him. It happened several weeks ago but this week he said he doesn’t feel happy about how things are going and that he is still hurt from that night. I’m confused as to how he can still be hurt from something that happened so long ago, after I apologized so much and explained everything. I regret what I did so much. He says he needs time to feel better on his own and think things through. I am trying to give him space this time but still am unable to completely stop messaging because I’m afraid he’ll move on especially since I’m not even close to him. Is there any chance of him coming back if I do give him space?
Hi, Anna. His still holding on to the hurt from that one night is a sign that he’s looking for reasons to create more space. You’ll have to give him space he’s asking for. There’s definitely a chance he’ll come back, but you’ll want to give him space to improve the chances that he will. Leaning in anxiously to try to stop him from moving on might just do the opposite. And if he doesn’t come back, then you should look for someone who’s more excited to be with you. You deserve that more.
Why is it even acceptable for him to be like this at all?
Is Aqua the most sexist, misogynist sign there is? Blowing hot and cold whenever he pleases? And being okay with it as it is in his “astrological nature”??? Oh he’s an Aquarius, never mind – They’re like that.
Sounds like all the fathers no one wishes they grew up with! An almost non-existent, shallow – non-committal.
Maybe Aquarius are not real men – As in strong men. They sound like weak, shallow men – The players of the zodiac.
I don’t know – I am a Gemini – and he is making me angry! I am not allowed to have an opinion on things on the tv. He disagrees, so don’t hear from him in ages….. Seriously – Will this be his fathering style? Every website says we’re soulmates? Or are Gems doomed with an Aqua? God, give me a heartfelt Cancerian or Scorpio man any day – Haha – With no Aquarius in their birth chart, lol…!
If he doesn’t allow you to have opinions about things on TV and becomes cold if you do, that’s particularly low-vibe. I’d reconsider things with him to be honest! But of course, I would need to know more before I actually gave thorough advice.
I agree, I have never seen a man be so hot and cold like Aquarius ( Cancer and Scorpio men can be cold as well when hiding stuff be careful). I am a Scorpio woman and after 3-4 months I asked him to stop being cold and just tell me straight he does not want to see me anymore, he couldn’t do it, then went cold again then came back then cold again, so annoying. Today is his Birthday and because he decided to stay cold I decided to move on. They are unable to be straight forward and upfront, I also find it disrespectful, no wonder why so many of them are single.
I have been dating an aqua man for 5 months now.I have known him since childhood but not too close.at first he showed some interest in me, telling me how much he have been wanting to have me but he didn’t have the courage.i always got mixed feelings bcoz he likes to spend more time by himself.we would talk but not Soo often,maybe becoz he was busy with his political career and it was stress ful at times,I tried to understand that.then he just disappear all of a sudden without a goodbye for 2weeks.i didn’t try to reach him or anything it was like a red flag for me.one day he met one of my cousin and asked her to send greetings to me.then he showed up again trying to explain to me that he got caught up and just needed some time alone but it sucks becoz he didn’t say nothing so he didn’t know how to get back to me and that took days trying to gain confidence ,he said he was afraid I would just shut him out.then he promised to change and he did change ,texting and calling when he gets some time.he always insisted me to stay and try to understand him and that things will get better soon.one day on a blue he just called me late at night which is unusual talking to me for 2hrs just opening up more and being committed in the relationship I really didn’t expect that.i must say he tried to make time for me but he was way too busy with his carree,whenever I asked him to take a break and focus on himself he would refuse,and asking me to just hang on and that whatever he is working for it’s for us to have a better future and that he wanna have me in his life. but his busy is so extra that it’s giving me dought now I took the break and he told me that it’s ok if I need one to just take care of my self but he never needed one he tried to ask how long but I wasn’t specific,the thing is I cannot predict him he says this but does the other and he would never wanna let go of me he asked if wanted to meet his mom but I wasn’t ready,now I don’t even know if he is going to miss me or not. He cannot remember my birthday but he is delight and happy to know that I remember his and felt worst for not remembering mine asking me to change him into a better man he is ready that he just wanna be the best boyfriend, I wanna surprise him on his birthday and get back together with him coz I think we are ganna work things out ,I gave him this break to see if he could miss me and feel my absence it’s hard coz he always keeps his feelings hidden,even when he is jelous or I offended him he would just ignore me and walk away not trying to talk about it even though he is mad at me he won’t admit it,but I always try to give reassurance
Hi so i have been seeing an Aqua Guy for over an year we have been up and down due to him having a girlfriend .we did not trust each other because hè said hè knows im single so i can get anyone i want and i told him its him that i want anyway hè always told me that if i have someone i shoild take the Guy whenever i asked him if his having sex with other females besides his girlfriend .over the weekend i was at a party was talking with a Guy friend stoof real close to him ,my Guy came to the party sneaked up but i saw him .he ran out i ran after him hè got in his car drove off .i messaged him to come back hè said no hè saw wat hè needed to see and hè blocked me .will hè come back its been 3 days and hè still has not unblocked me .i have explained my side by telling him hè just assumed but felt like hè wanted to leave me long time.will hè come back
I broke up with my aqua man as he admitted he’s not able to give me the full attention I needed due to a lot of things happening with his life, he didn’t know when/how he might be able to do that again. We loved each other but he’s unable to give to the relationship like he used to, so I chose to end things. He left the door wide open for me and tell me he would welcome to hear from me again, I know nothing would change at least for the next little while, so I decided to go no-contact. Will aqua see no-contact as the true end to a relationship? Do they take it well? Is there any chance he would reach out and start things once he’s able to give me everything I want?
I am going through it with my ex of an Aqua. We met on my birthday trip overseas and ever since then he actively pursued me. I wasn’t initially drawn to him as he was different than the rest of my exes. He was a conversationalist, passionate, driven and intelligent. This drew me in. At first I was hesitant but with his persistence and charm, I caved in and said he’s to bring his gf. Since then his communication worsened. Oh did I mention we were in a LDR and he traveled 24/7 dur work too? To conclude, he prioritized his work over our relationship. Eventually endless unfulfilled promises turned led to my resentment. I could go into way more details but our issues aren’t that bad but with his mixed signals, hot and cold attitude is was I can’t deal with. I eventually snapped and broke up with (via text) him after trying to get ahold of him for days to a week to answer my call. Since then he’s been acting strange— no response to my text, random unknown callers from an area code from his city, subtweets and most recently unfollowing me. I love him and I know he does too but it’s becoming unhealthy which is why I fell back. I removed myself from the situation in hopes to give him the space he needs to process his emotions because evidently he can’t express them to me. All he needed to do was pick up his phone to dial or text my number AS his GF. Classic case of an emotionally unavailable air sign that wants to selfishly have his cake and eat it too.
There is a lot more to this that I feel I am not giving much justice to this situation (not anything terrible by the way) because I haven’t unpacked the story in major details/key events. But I wanted to know if we could chat because I am really lots of mixed signals and I think my Aqua is still healing from last wounds and projects on our union or he is afraid. He both say I love you (him first) all the time so this is a relationship of substance and abundance. It’s just been rattled month and I need you to help me make sense of it all because Im losing my mind!!!! – Aries
Hi, I broke up with my Aquarius boyfriend after a big fight that was clearly his fault(we caused a scene in the neighborhood , I moved out and about a week later, my Instagram account was hacked, I knew he did that but I didn’t want to call/text him,so I told my friend, who called him and told him to release my account, he then contacted me and said he didn’t hack my account but he’ll help me get it back, he then asked what password I’ll like to use for my account and I told him and he retrieved it in less that 5minutes, he then tried to start a conversation on how he missed me and wanted me back and he literally begged me the whole day to come see him which I later gave in and went to see him the next day.
we talked things out and started seeing each other secretly . Then after making up , he was still so distant and wasn’t talking much, I asked and he flared up saying I’m overreacting and it went on, I then gave him space
Few days later he came back, lovebombing me apologizing and stuff, admitted he was scared of getting his heart broken and that was why he was distant and I went to see him that same day, we had sex and he still didn’t talk much again, which had me concerned but when I brought it to his notice, he promised to change but he didn’t and I gave him space, again….
Only for him to start begging me that he wants to move back in together with me and he doesn’t care what people say anymore, texted me literally every minute till I got to his house in the evening and he was so remorseful saying he missed us and he’s sorry etc and the next morning, he said he was going to his uncles place and he’ll be back by evening, he then texted me from his uncles place that he’s going for therapy since he’s battling with some issues and I should leave and drop the key with our gateman and he’ll call me when he’s back from the therapist and I said I’ll wait home till he was back, and he said he doesn’t know how long he’ll be there so I need to go. I then said I’ll leave by evening and he said ok. Later that evening, I tried sending him encouraging messages since he said he went to see a therapist and I noticed it didn’t deliver ,few minutes later he texted me to ask how I was doing and if I was still at his place, I replied and notice it didn’t deliver, again….so I asked if he blocked me and called him on WhatsApp and he said yes he did block me and he wants me to leave his place and he’s no longer happy with me and I give him bad vibes 😭😭😭and I left his place and it’s been close to two weeks now, he’s never tried to contact me or anything. I love him so much. Do I still stand a chance or I should just move on.He’s Aquarius and we were together for 1year and 4months
I’ve met an aqua man through dating apps. We’re very compatible to each other and liked each other so much. We hav 19 years gap. But age doesnt matter. After 4 months of chatting, we met personally. He always calls me, texts me. We always find ways to meet and spend time together. Until i realized that i’m falling in love with him. In my eyes he’s very charming and attractive and very kind and caring towards me. It’s been almost one year of the relationship, i never heard him saying those simple three words” I love You”. Just last year before new year i called him and asked him if he loves me or not. He didn’t answer me. Few days before new year I invited him to come over to my place and spend a night and he showed up and i was so happy that night when he came. My aqua man is a type who is so talkative and confindent to say what he wants. But that night night i noticed, whe he saw me waiting him at the door, he was so quiet and just sating to me “why are you so beautiful today?” And he just hugged me and kissed me. He was quiet. He talks but few and very careful to what he says. Until we woke up morning. I never get an answer from him. I felt like empty. He left that day never said anything.
After one week he called. But i missed the call because i was still at work. I never received any texts also from him. I didnt call him back. I wanted to keep distance. But honestly from d bottom of my heart i really do miss him so much. His voice, his hugs and kisses everything about him i missed a lot. But i controlled myself not to call him.
I was thinking maybe he found somebody new and forget me. Will he call me again? I miises him a lot.
From sad Pisces woman
Hey, Kristine. Sorry to hear about the difficulties you’ve had with your Aqua. To me, it sounds like he really does enjoy you and your relationship together, but he’s just not ready or willing to commit to a deeper level with you. Pisces/Aqua relationships can already be pretty tough on the emotional wavelength level, and unless he decided to go all-in, I’d consider keeping your options open and being open for love elsewhere.
Thanks for your nice reply Loren Elara. Just today i called him three times but he didnt answer my calls. I texted him. Confronted him. I messed up. I dont know if he was pissed off with my messages and replied to me that he liked me. But i told him straight i gave him time table. I said its time for me to leave. Will not disturb you anymore. He didnt answer when i said goodbye. But deep inside i really really felt sad of my decision. In every corner of my room It reminds me of his memories. So sad . I’m heartbroken now.
Hi, i started dating an aquarius man in october 21. He initially overwhelmed me with love, affection, he stayed 1.5 hours away so he made it a point to travel every weekend to see me, he met my parents, I met his brother and sister in law, his friends, met his mother over the phone. We discussed getting married several times. We had a bomb of a honeymoon period for 2 months but his parents met an astrologer who told them that we’re not good for eachother and I will be manipulative, and dominating (his parents believe strongly in astrology). Cut to him telling me this, he was very disappointed but convinced his parents that we will make it work. After a few weeks, we started fighting a lot, he was being too self centered and showing me so much ego but he always blamed me for having ego with him, and never “bending down or giving up in a fight” (words the astrologer told him). We had a lot of love every weekend we met but the weeks started to get difficult with a lot of pointless arguments. Eventually, I had covid, we couldnt meet and the 2 weeks were rough. In Jan 21st, he broke up when I brought up that I feel we’re drifting apart and not moving stronger. He immediately agreed and said we should breakup (i didn’t want the breakup). He blocked me off Instagram, he did text me a couple of times (2 weeks later), breadcrumbing me- he didnt really make efforts to meet or actually fix things but would randomly send me a song, or just a survey for his work, etc. He came to my city specifically on the weekend I wasn’t here after a month, especially after I had been asking him to come see me one last time (but we always fought so he actually never came), but came with his friends when I wasn’t in the city, to a restaurant right behind my house. Every time we spoke after the breakup I fought because I was amazed on how casual he was being, talking to me like nothing happened, while I was going thru hell, so I asked him not to message me again (cut to 1.5 months after the breakup) if he isn’t going to do anything concrete to fix us. He never contacted me again after that. Finally, I broke down one day after 3 weeks and contacted him myself, breaking down, asking him to give me closure (it was a very dramatic convo)- he acted completely cold and heartless, blaming me for everything he did wrong- he was the one who broke up, but wanted me to chase him, blamed me for being egoist, self centered, angry (all things he did). I didn’t message him after that cos I was extremely helpless on those texts and he didn’t care, he blocked me on whatsapp after that convo- but unblocked me a few days later. It has been 3 weeks of 0 contact and I don’t want to contact him again, but Im in agony, its almost3 months of breakup and we dated for around 4 months, but im not able to get over our chemistry, and our bond, we made plans to get married. He isn’t messaging me and seems to be okay on his own. What do i do, expect?
Hey. Sorry about the pain this relationship has caused you. I would recommend moving on from this relationship. While you had great chemistry initially, it didn’t last very long before incompatibilities cropped up. His projection of blaming you for everything and that signature Aquarian aloofness and detachment show he is not ready to see you or love you for who you are. I’d suggest grieving the relationship and moving on to open yourself up energetically for new love.
I have a girlfriend but he is a trans.
We live together for 3 years but she decided to breakup with me because she thinks that our relationship is toxic and she afraid to lose myself for her attitude. She told me that she need some space but a week later I discover that shes dating someone else and she love this guy and invest feeling and time and money but eventually betrayed her.
For now we are in good terms and im always here for her, she seems not moved on yet on that guy. But she always reaching me out like getting morning text for her.
I always telling her that if she need help Im always here as her ex lover or friend and I understand that she is not move on yet.
Then told me that she regret the breakup and still love me. She is so hot and cold.
but for now Im doing things and focus for myself and keep letting her to reach me sometimes and giving her freedome that what makes her happy even it hurts because I love her.
Is there a chance that she will come back to me? because she seemw confuse with her feelings.
i have been with an Aquarius man for 8 years now…for him to commit to me was never a problem we where so madly in love….we moved in together…had our first baby boy who is 4 years now and currently I’m 4months pregnant with our second child…..however a few months back a found out he was cheating….i confronted him he denied at first but the second time i saw the conversation of him and this girl that they are dating and its actually serious he confessed that its true and that he found himself in love with two woman and he would like to keep us both…..lately we argue a lot he has detached, we hardly talk, he comes home late….i find out that him and this girl are really serious hes always with her,,,,i tried to fight it but instead ive fallen into deep depression….the pregnancy is even making it worse,,,,i hardly eat ive lost so much weight ….when i talk to him he says he loves me but feels like the spark is gone…i am hurting so much the other day i hacked his phone and found pictures of him and this girl….he took them out…the girl has a 8year old daughter….im scared because i know when my man loves he loves for real and would go all out…..he doesn’t even check on me all day……he comes home i serve him his food hes always on his phone, we sleep on the same bed everyday but its really cold….but funny part is he always want to have sex with me…..according to the chats i saw with the girl they haven’t had sex yet….however our sex its just lustful no emotion this really hurts…..im tired of hearing people advising me to live…to think about my health and the baby but it really doesn’t make sense to me….i just want to get rid of this girl and have my man back….to fight for my family and marriage…..i want us to be happy again,,,,for him to look at me with like he used to when we where so much in love….for him to care and worry about me every moment,,,,,i just want my man back…..is it possilbe to get back an Aquarius man who has fallen out of love with me.
i am a gemini, he is aquarius, he has always wanted me but i have always refused, we started dating April this year, had a huge argument this past weekend where i said some mean things, i told him to leave which he did, i now regret it, been texting him and trying to call but he is not responding,
So my ex was as you can tell and Aqua man and I relationship wasn’t the longest no! But everything this man was doing was so right and by the book! There was no hidden agenda, his intentions were so true and genuine. Nothing but laughs everyday, talked about alot of things that kept us going all nights just having wonderful conversations! To then wake up to him there making me breakfast, everything! Down right gentlemen by all of his actions! To then out of the blue after coming back from a trip to Alaska for a great friend of his wedding then we were supposed to meet up; well I was going to stay over at his place couple days after he got back, all was planned and we were excited ti see each other again and spend time together. But day after he got back he had called to say he needs to end the relationship, ALL OUT OF THE BLUE! Very taken back by the situation and till this day very confused as to why he wanted to end things and all he could say was after talking with his therapist he needed to end things with me because I reminded him of his ex? But I was confused as to how? Because he then stated that i was perfect for him, I did nothing wrong, I was all he well needed in a guy; stability, mature, good head on his shoulders, everything. Now till this day I don’t understand why? He claims that his feelings for me never changed but then I come to to find out that he is already dating other guys and well doing other things with guys I can’t quite say on here but you get what I mean. This doesn’t make sense how could a so called perfect guy for you who reminds you of his ex, not be ok for you or given another try but these other random dudes who don’t even know the littlest things about you, that you like or don’t like get this opportunity? Where did I or the relationship go wrong?
Hello, I’m a scorpio woman and the last three men I was with all did me the say way! All three invited another woman into our bed that was only slept in by us! Everyone of them said the same thing to me! My mouth! The first was a capricorn then a scorpio but my aquarius that I had just met, knew what the last two before him had done to me but after a year of me waiting for him to want to commit, he tells me 3 days ago that he had decided to commit but not to me, a girl that showed have known about us and said she didn’t! She even asked me if was with him and I told her exactly what and where I had been in his life the past year! the evening I met him, he walked up on me in my yard! I had heard about him but hadn’t met him even though we have the same circle of friends! He handed me money to give my roommate b4 he knew my name! He spent 2wks trying to get my attention and when it finally worked we spent the next several weeks getting to know each other. He presented himself to me as a man of the same age as me was more responsible as a man than any other man I have met before him! I’ve always dated older men due to maturity. Yet here he was so sweet and charming that if I mentioned I wanted something, anything, he found a way to make it happen and surprise me with it! We had an agreement that neither of us wanted to be in a relationship but we both wanted benefits of the relationship so we both knew where the other stood. Several months later I started realizing that he was showing me he had feelings but when I asked him about it he said he didn’t feel that way and he made it very clear to me several times throughout the past year that he would never date me or even consider me as a girlfriend just because and that was that! With that in mind and him knowing how I felt all this time, we both realized it went from 2x a week to every night we were together and always at his place which I didn’t mind because I found peace at his place! I didn’t have all the commotion and it was just us! Then around the year mark I started to be told by my closest guy friends that he had been tell other people that know me he was tired of my shit!? What shit would this be? We never argued about anything, I really only talked when he was talking to me about something and wanted to know what I thought of it! Then he after we slowed it back down mutually, he started to tell me he was going back north to be with his ex and his daughter and that he didn’t know if he was going to come back or not! He seen what I was trying to hide and all along kept telling me we would never be an us because he didn’t feel that way about me! Now last month a mutual female so-called friend stopped by his place one night I’m not there and she requested his help moving a camper and didn’t have anywhere to put it and was willing to pay for it to sit at his place so that it was save and not in the way I guess. The next night is when he told me about all this and a few days later because of his financial situation I figure since he asked me to get in touch with her for him and find out if she was serious about paying him to move this camper to his property for her, I did. After about 2 more days he said just give her my number, so I did and told her to call him because this business was between them! This community is not very big and around here everyone knows everyone’s business, so there Is no way she hadn’t known about him and I! That’s when he started telling me he was going to quit coming to get me as much and by now we had slowed it to 1 day a week, his doing, but now he’s saying that he wants to get back to his old self and he can’t do that with me in the picture! Ok I ain’t liking where this was going bit as good as he had treated me, I went with it! Just 3 nights ago he said he’s going to come get me and doesn’t, made up an excuse why he couldn’t but later said I could come over if I found a ride there! Right before I’m about to leave for his place, he said a friend just called him and needs a place to stay for the night he said they could stay there! When I get there, something hits me like a brick wall that something wasn’t right! As I walked into the living room where they were, neither of them could look at me and guilt was all over both of them! Now him and I both are single and agreed that we are free to do whatever we want, but now what happened next voids everything he had ever said to me! He falls asleep and because we hadn’t seen each other in a while, her and I sat up talking. Couple of hours later he wakes up, now of course I’m siting on the bed next to him and she’s across from me in the çhair, she gets up and hauls ass out the house and says I love you girl talking to me, he says I love you to back to her the same time I did. She only heard him say it back so she said dude I wasn’t talking to you, I was talking to her! He started getting initiated about her leaving and wanted to know when she would be back and I could tell he was upset she had left! Not trying to let him see that it get to me seeing this, I laid down next to him with my back to him and tried to fall asleep. He refused to let me sleep and we had sex twice that morning. Afterwards, he says what he had been wanting to talk to me in person about! He had already told her how he felt about her and wanted to know if she would be interested in DATING him!? He’s telling me this right after we get done having sex, which was never boring, but he then says that since he seen we were friends that if I wanted him to, he would still come get me and I could hang out with them anytime! ARE YOU SERIOUS RIGHT NOW?? He never gave me an opportunity to show him that I was girlfriend material and knowingly pushed me aside to tell me that he wants to be committed to her! I’ve been crying almost non stop since he dropped me off that morning! Her and I got to talking again later the next day and she asks me if he had mentioned anything to me about the situation so I filled her in on what was what and I warned her that om not ready to let him go so whatever she decides would definitely decide our fates as friends or enemies! I can say she made the wrong choice! Now two days later he won’t talk to me because of her and tells me I’m not to step foot on his property and so on and so on! Idk what to do other than except this and move on! I can’t be friends with him like I can the 2 exs before him because I didn’t know him as a friend before all this so there is no reason to stay friends after this! I told him he was stupid if he thought I would be able to sit over there with them, craving him inside me and not be able to have that because of her! I gave her his number for him because of the lie he told me! I’ve never had been told a lie out of his mouth until now! I never thought he would do this knowing where I stood and the time and understanding I was willing to give him because of his work ethic and the hardship he had endured as well as my situation at hand. But after all this he made a point to tell me that he actually did have feelings for me until I started acting like I was! Now, I haven’t changed anything about how I am nor did I need to until now! Now I’m pissed, he will know that I am hurt and this is unacceptable behavior on his part not mine like he was trying to do! I don’t know how to feel right now and I want him back so bad it hurts! I hadn’t intended on feeling like this but as I noticed it happening I informed him about it and he would do what he always do every couple of months, continued to turn the charm on but would not atmit to me that he had feelings for me as well! Why would he wait to say he did the whole time after he tells me he’s not going to be seeing me like we had been anymore!? Just out of the blue hits me with this and expected me to be okay with it! Did I come off as a person that would be ok with this or where did I do something wrong for this to happen? Why is all I really want to know and he beats around. the bush and then says he’s done talking about it clearly knowing I haven’t had a chance to process this and tell him my thoughts! He won’t talk to me now and neither will she so I ain’t stupid, I know that she’s moving in with him and in a committed relationship! But how could he do this to me knowing what I had been through the past 5yrs and he promised he wasn’t like that!?! Thank you for reading this and any insight will be helpful! I just didn’t need to feel like this 3weeks away from my birthday too! Makes it horrible feeling and I can’t control anything about this situation except for letting it go! Did he deliberately find away to get rid of me? why hadn’t he said anything before this about how he felt? I told him nothing would change between us knowing how the other feels! Unless he was ready to commit, I wasn’t either! Now the twist to this is, he knew if he talked about wanting to be with another female that I did not want to hear about it because of how I felt! He insisted on seeing my reaction of jealousy and would only start to talk about random women after we had had what I thought was the best sex we had had yet thous far! I knew he didn’t like me being jealous so I tried to hide it but he could see right through that! The night I wanted to talk to him about all this, he told me I couldn’t come over because she was and that he was going to make his mind up about wanting to be with her! I had to tell him in a text message yesterday that if he would have sat down with me the night before, he wouldn’t be told like this but I had no other way to tell him he is sadly mistaken if he really thought he was the only one I had been with in the last year! I even told him that every time felt like I was cheating on him and we wasn’t dating! I wanted to see his reaction when I told him this but he didn’t give me an opportunity to and now he won’t talk to me! I told them both I’m done with both of them and he has three baby mama’s, I sent a screen shot of what he had told me about fucking me on the side of this new relationship he wanted and told her if he did it to me, it’s just a matter of time before he gets bored with her and does it her too! To top it off, all this time I heard that he didn’t want his daughters mother to know about him and I but all of a sudden he told her he wasn’t going back to her, and that he was going to be with this home wrecking whor! This town ain’t very big and idk how I’m supposed to just let this go and go on with my life, but I know that I have to! it’s been 4days now and I’m still fighting back tears typing this! Where do I go from here?
I’m Reine, I was dating a Aqua. he was super sweet and shy. I try to tell him all the time he is handsome and amazing. He always beats himself up and downplays himself in front of me, deliberately bullying himself. We have been dating for about 2 years now, and I started working on my business and some other local stuff in my community. Well he came to me and said I was neglecting him and that he wished I spent more time with him. I also forgot his birthday, and seen what day it was from him messaging me, I won’t like I still feel bad about it. I don’t feel like I can do anything he has ever done for me. He helped me move twice. I got distracted by my goals and neglected him, and he warned me if it happened again he would leave me, and I paid the price. He said he loves me, but wants to work on himself, that this isn’t a joke. We still talk daily and he comes over for adult fun, but I’m just trying to stay strong so he notices I do love him and maybe will come back to me. I miss him, he still says he loves me but he is genuinely not ready for a relationship RN as he wants to get his life back together, maybe to better support me cuz RN he is financially struggling and wants to be the provider in the family.