What to do when a Sagittarius Man Stops Texting Back (& Other Texting Tips)

Loren E. Elara

Loren E. Elara

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Sagittarius men aren’t always the best communicators – particularly when talking via text.

Whether through text or on the phone – it’s just not a big priority for him to maintain a constant line of communication. He can be warm and talkative one day and then suddenly drop off the map for days or even weeks.

He doesn’t need constant contact to maintain his feelings for friends, family, and lovers. He may write, call, or text you back eventually, but he may not reach out to you first unless he has something cool planned for you to do together.

Because of this, it can be really hard to read him when he’s not texting you back.

Is he mad or upset with you? Or perhaps he’s not mad at all and is simply off doing his own thing.

No matter what’s going on in his head, there are specific things you can do when a Sagittarius man isn’t texting back.

Related: 5 Surefire Ways to Make a Sagittarius Man Miss You

What you should do when a sag man stops texting

Relax and take a step back. It can be stressful when a Sagittarian guy seemingly disappears on you. It might make you feel like you have to act fast to remedy the situation, perhaps by reaching out to him to see if something is wrong. But this is the last thing you should do with the Sag man. He doesn’t like rushed or stressful energy – especially when it feels unnecessary to him and makes him feel pressured.

Carry on with your life as usual. Sagittarius men are busy guys and there’s a decent chance that he hasn’t been texting you back because he’s been caught up in his busy schedule. When this happens, it’s best for you to do the same. And better for the love match, as well, since he prefers partners who can take breaks from communicating and are happy to lead a busy life while apart. When he does talk to you again, he’ll probably have fun stories to share with you and he expects you to have interesting things to share as well.

Call or text in a casual way. If you simply can’t handle the radio silence then you can send a relaxed text to check-in on him. He’s a laid back guy, so he shouldn’t mind you sending him a quick check-in (as long as a reasonable amount of time has passed since you’ve last communicated). He may be going through a tough time and would actually benefit from your companionship but didn’t want to bother you with it. The important thing here is that you come across as unflustered. You’re just checking in because he’s come across your mind – not because you’ve been stressing about him. Remember, if you come off as worried or reactive you will only push him further away. Instead be light, fun, and mention some interesting activity you were planning and see if he’ll bite on it and want to join.

Related: How To Get a Sagittarius Man to Chase You Again

What you shouldn’t do when a Sag man stops texting

Don’t ask him if anything is wrong. One of the easiest ways to scare off a Sag man is to crowd him with worries about your relationship. And by asking him if something is wrong when he hasn’t been texting is a surefire way to get him to feel pressured. To you, it might seem like you’re concerned and caring, but to him, he sees it as prodding, needy behavior.

Don’t try to figure out what he’s been up to or be nosy in any way. Prying behavior freaks him out. As I’ve eluded to already in this article, he’s a bit of a flighty guy who hates stress and pressure. You might be really curious about what’s been going on with him, and if something is wrong with you guys, but it’s best to relax and let it go. Take a breath. Also, never stalk him or send other people to snoop on him. Because if he finds out he won’t be at all pleased with you.

Related: The Ultimate Guide to Attract the Sagittarius Man

Absolutely no accusations. One of the worst things you can do is accuse him of avoiding or ghosting you. Sure, you could do this if you really are done with him and it would make you feel better to say it. But if you really like this guy, and want things to work out, then treating him like this is never a good way to get him to pay more attention to you. He will see it as possessive behavior and will want to push farther away from you. He can cut ties quickly if he wants to, and attacking him might lead him to remove you from his life.

Don’t provoke him or create drama to get him to contact you. He hates contrived or fabricated behavior. He will see it as needy and insecure if he senses that you’re trying to stir things up just to get him to reach out to you. Trying to make him jealous can backfire as well. If he sees photos of you with other guys he may just assume you’ve moved on. Or, if he sees it correctly as a way to get a rise out of him, he will label you as petty and will probably move on from you. This doesn’t mean you should avoid posting or sharing interesting things that you’ve been up on social media – do your thing. It’s the intention that counts. You should be genuinely out having a fun time and NOT just posting to try to draw him back to you.

Related: 7 Things To Know About the Sagittarius Man in Bed

When a Sag man ignores your texts

Maybe you didn’t heed the warnings and decided to text him again – even though he hasn’t been getting back to you. At this point, he’s blatantly ignoring your texts.

Maybe, just maybe, he’s actually been unavailable this whole time and hasn’t had a chance to read or respond to your messages. And when he does see your messages, he will get back to you. More than likely, though, he’s grown tired of you, and you’re continual messaging just pushes him even farther away.

Unfortunately, at this point, there’s not too much you can do to compel him to reach out to you. If he’s over you there’s not too much you can do that will bring him back. Applying more pressure now will just make it even less likely.

If you really want him, you’ll have to leave things be for a while and wait it out. You can spend this time learning how to best attract him (I have a course for that).

Related: 5 Essential Tips for Dating a Sagittarius Man


The most important takeaway to help you navigate him not texting you back is to manage your emotions and keep your cool. Never overreact to his absence.

Play things cool, as he does. Be engaging and make your life interesting.

If he’s been drifting away, the biggest cause is typical that he’s grown bored by your time together. Don’t take it personally, just make your life more exciting and he may come back. 

You can learn how to better attract your Sagittarius man by going through my course on attracting the Sagittarius Man. In the course, I’ve compiled some important points you’ll absolutely want to know if you want to expertly text a Sag guy.

Hi I’m Loren. Welcome to Popular Astrology. You can learn more about me and this website here.

28 thoughts on “What to do when a Sagittarius Man Stops Texting Back (& Other Texting Tips)”

  1. Hi. This one was very helpful for me.
    You see I’m an Aquarius and the man I’m dating is a Sag. I’m okay with him not texting me because I’m equally terrible at keeping in touch, but after 3 days I started to worry.
    But he did day he was “busy with work, and has some personal stuff to sort out”
    I’m just really confused because our dates went so well. And the next day nothing, 2 days later he told me that, and now he’s not texting me for 3.
    My Aquarius mind can’t take this. He gives me too much time to overthink, but I guess I just have to wait it out?
    I’m not sure what to do. I don’t want to push him too far but I’m really worried about him now.

    1. Hi Agnes. Glad it helped. If the dates have gone well, I wouldn’t worry about it. Three days is par for the course with a Sag, especially if he has work stuff on his plate. Sag’s almost always put work and personal issues ahead of dating. My recommendation is t wait it out! Better to wait than potentially make him feel pressured.

  2. Same here this sag man , I thought was playing hot and cold . I’ve snapped and thought he was using me . I let my friend and family put thing into my head he using you . But he told me he scared and it’s crazy how he gets feeling he said he like that someday s he cold some hot . But now I think I’ve messed it up . When we’re together we bounce of each we don’t stop laughing . What do I do ??,

    1. It sounds like you’re both a little uneasy with nerves. The best thing you can do is focus on the fun you have while you spend time together. As you grow together and become more familiar, the nerves should settle and there won’t be as much reflexive game playing.

  3. So I’m talking to a sag guy and he texts me, I reply then he doesn’t answer for a day? Is that normal? Someone help

    1. Hi Heather. I wouldn’t sweat one day between texts. Though it does depend somewhat on the specifics of your relationship and the context of your texting. Overall, though, taking a day or more to text back shouldn’t be too surprising from a Sag.

  4. Hi, with me its a bit complicated. I am married aries girl, but so happy in my marriage. Then this sag guy appears, puts tremendous effort to conquer me, chemistry at first sight, all absolutely amazing, lots of laughing and fun. After 2 months I couldnt resist anymore. The sex was even more amazing than expected. But then suddenly, he started to behave like hot and cold; when we were seeing each other was still good, but the time between, he stopped the effort and chase somehow. At first I got panicked a bit and confronted him. Bad idea, he got mad but we sorted it out. He reassured me, all was fine. He told me I needed to divorce, since I was not happy at home, but said clearly he would never commit or marry again (he is divorced). So the story continued, we kept seeing each other, but it was more me that initiated it. Then he was withdrawing a bit, I let him. Afterwards he told me that was needed because he sensed I had more feelings than himself. So now we found back together somehow, but he seems only interested in our physical chemistry, although if we meet, he is very caring but then super cold when we do not see. I would like to go back to our beginning time, when he was behaving like a normal guy falling in love with a girl. Help please. Ps regarding a divorce, now I am not yet ready..

    1. Sorry for this rollercoaster ride, Jenna. To me, it appears that this Sagittarius guy is only looking for a good time via physicality and a light relationship. He was more involved early on because it’s easier when someone is new. But he’s shown after that initial spark faded that he’s not wanting to put in the effort to make a real, lasting relationship built on love. This is unfortunate, but it’s where you’ll likely have to work from. You can either move on and find someone who is more willing to be invested in a relationship with you, or you can work to seduce this guy to get him excited for you again like in the beginning.

  5. Can someone advise me?

    So I’ve been speaking to a male Sag for 11 months straight, every single day without fail and when we talk, we talk for about 3 hours at a time. Not met yet, but were planning to after Covid. I have genuinely never laughed so much in my life as I have every day I talk to him and he feels the same way, always laughing with me and we have had the deepest, most incredible chats you could possibly imagine. He started over the last month being a little distant, saying he needs to get in a better mindset by avoiding messages for a while because he feels down etc, I understood and left him to it. He then messaged each night saying goodnight and that he’s thinking of me. We briefly started talking again and were both laughing so much, but then he has just now completely avoided opening my messages for almost 2 weeks. I’m always, always there supporting him and I know he really appreciates it, we are genuinely best friends, so close. We flirt at the same time and just have the best relationship and he adores me. He says all the time how much I mean to him, but he now just won’t speak. Nothing has happened, I know for a fact he hasn’t ‘lost interest’ as I’ve heard from a friend of his how he feels about me. He remembers all the little things and says I’ve made a huge impact on his life etc and I just wish I knew how to actually work him out 🙁 I think I’ve fallen for him. I’ve obviously not admitted it to him, as want to keep him unpressured as I know he has a lot going on. But I don’t understand what is wrong! He talks to me about everything when he’s down, knowing I’ll be there for him. He loves talking to me, for a fact. And now it’s like I don’t exist! He doesn’t really feel ready for a relationship, but I knew this before, so he doesn’t in any way feel like I’m expecting something from him or anything! We are very open and honest with each other! What do you think is going on and how should I approach the situation?

    1. That’s a lot of communication for a Sagittarius. Especially before ever meeting in person. It sounds like you have a great connection though. If you are absolutely sure that he hasn’t lost interest, I would just wait for him to contact you again. He might just need a break from continuous communication. No biggie! Just keep doing your thing.

  6. I am in relationship with this sag guy for a while now, around 8 months. But we had around 2 months of disconnection in the beginning only. But after that, we’ve been going smoothly as if nothing happened. But it is always me who has to text first. The 2 months gap was also because I didn’t text him first. Later on when I asked him, he said he was there only and hadn’t gone anywhere. He never initiates a conversation. But immediately replies to my texts. He is there whenever I need him, he listens to me, gives me suggestions. But he is never the first one to plan things, or ask me out. So sometimes I feel as if he is not that interested in me.

    1. Hi Sharma. It seems like you have a good connection. But yes, if he never reaches out then his interest could very well be low. I would recommend that you learn more about him/his sign and discover more ways to appeal to him and build his attraction for you.

      1. Thank you Loren. For a while I thought he needed some space, so I decided to not talk for some time. But how long should the space be given? Sometimes I feel he really adores me, like he replies my midnight texts too, immediately, he gives me his subscription of different websites. He just doesn’t initiate whatever there is by himself. So sometimes I find nothing to talk about and I fear these all will just fade away. I really want this to work out.

  7. I am completely besotted with a Sagittarius. We have been speaking on and off for around 4 months now, met each other twice in that time. The last time 3 weeks ago where we spent 2 days together. Since then we have spoke less, we arranged to meet a couple of weeks ago (he cancelled, but he has cancelled so many times or not got in touch on a day we have plans I’m not going to overanalyse that). We then went a week without speaking, I messaged him checking in on him and he didn’t reply. I’m just so confused. He has said all the right things and every time we have spoke recently the conversation has been better than ever. He has become less active online so i don’t know whether he has got stuff his dealing with or he just doesn’t want to speak to me. He has gone off the radar for a few days here and there before and when I’ve been with him he hasn’t paid much attention to his phone. I just don’t know how to get an answer to where I stand without pressuring him. If he just said he didn’t want to know me anymore I can deal with that much better than what his doing to me now. I don’t chase him, I’m not clingy. I haven’t done anything to upset him so I just can’t grasp what’s happening.

    1. Hi, Amy. I’m sorry for your struggles with your Sag. He very well could either be busy and preoccupied or has lost interest. It seems like you’ve done very well to not overwhelm him. So the only thing I could recommend at this point is to wait and see if he reaches out. If he’s simply busy, he’ll come around. If he’s lost interest, he will continue to drift away. Just be busy with yourself and keep your options open.

      1. I suppose I’m never going to get a definite answer even if I did call him out on it. I just can’t believe how hard I’ve fell for him. Sitting here pulling my hair out as to why he would of lost interest in me. I’m actually making myself ill by allowing him to consume my mind as much as he does. Never felt like this about someone before.

  8. I’m so confused over this Sag guy..We started dated end of August and had a blast until mid October…unfortunately his ex wife is a narcissist and controlled him through their daughter…he gave in to her control mid October and we did not have much contact until mid November…then we started texting again. He told me he had finally realised how his relationship with the ex had been based on a lie (common when being with a narcissist) and he was now breaking free from her and he would also start working on his own faults…we talked about going away for a few days and celebrate his birthday together but family matters came in the way…when we text it’s a lot about music, love, relationships – all the things we have in common and what we have always been talking about…however now he has stopped texting me…out of the blue…had a real nice conversation 4 days ago and haven’t heard from him since…

    I try not to panic…and to play cool…have texted him 4 times in 4 days…not asking why etc…have sent him some lyrics to a track we are working on, a picture of me being out with a friend, a link to a house (he is moving) and then just asked him if he is ok. With all of the stuff going on at his at the moment I try not to take this silence personal, and I definitely don’t want to push him…but damn its’ hard…should I just chill and relax and hope for the best?

    1. I would continue to play things cool. Try to relax and not text so much. Let him come at his pace. If he doesn’t come, it might be best then go for someone who shows you more interest.

  9. I have been dating a Sagittarius man since June of 2019 we have good chemistry he works good at giving his opinions on things we have great conversations when we talk but he disappears sometimes like 5 days then he will call like nothing has happened and tell me what he was going through I hate the fact that he does this we are supposed to be moving in together (since June of 2020) it has not happened yet he tells me he still wants too but it hasn’t happened I asked him is there anyone else he tells me no, he sometimes answers my calls when I call him he texts me almost every morning Good morning love are baby, I guess my question is why do Sagittarius men do this? I know he loves me he tells me every time we talk I guess I should be more patient I have told him how I feel without being aggressive I talk nice but get my point across, I am so in love with this man sometimes I just feel like he doesn’t want me.

    1. It’s a bit for him to disappear for days even though you have unfinished plans to move in together. If he continues to disappear for days and doesn’t progress the plans to move in together, it likely means that he’s second-guessing this move. You can ask him this bluntly. Most Sagittarian men can take such questions. Just try not to be too emotional when you confront him.

  10. Hello!
    So I’m a Leo and the guy I like is a Sagittarius and I’m having a hard time understanding if he like me or not. We work together so we see each other almost every other day. I noticed he started talking to me a bit more and at times starts conversations with me and I’m attracted to him but I don’t know if he attracted to me. Being the Leo I am I’ve tried little things like complimenting him and talking to him when I get the chance. I’ve even bought us lunch at one point. He did say a comment once that was flirtatious but I don’t know maybe I was reading too deep. So again being the Leo I am I sent him this video from tik tok that basically said that I had a crush on him. Then I said Sorry the wrong person with the eyes emoji to see if he would possibly respond back and I have nothing yet. But then again it hasn’t been too long and like the article said he could be busy. Definitely not texting him again but I just need something to know if he likes me or finds me attractive. I’m not sure.

  11. 6/10 Ok, here’s my story, I’m cancer female, we spent 3-4 days of the week together and weekends, for 2 months, i have him a safe haven for no emotional or relationship pressures. I did everything by the book. I know not to suffocate a guy. We live in a small town and I told him if he kissed me in public we would be known as an item because I don’t date, so he kissed me out everywhere on several occasions. He came to me when I asked if he would and he told me several times I am amazing, i met the kids, he involved me in taking care of things for him. And talked about me not freaking out when he goes out of town for business. No problem, showed him what to expect when he comes home. 😉 No emotional or time pressures. I had a car wreck about 3 weeks ago he said he would meet me at the hospital. That’s the last of heard from him. I reached out to him twice in 3 weeks to let him know no hard feelings and nothing. So I got on the dating site that we met on and he is on there. My gut says he’s trying to figure his crap out but you know cancers, endless romantics. Move on? I have other possibilities. or should I be just a little more patient and chill for a min? And all of a sudden a close friend of his reached out to me today too while they are both on the site. I didn’t ask or say anything about him. I hope to hear back soon

    1. Hi, Joy. It sounds like you really have taken care to show up in this relationship in a mature way. It seems like he’s showing less care in how he’s approaching things. I would say move on, but also be open to him showing back up. Be sure though, that if he does come back, you make him have to earn your attention a bit. He just dipped off the face of the earth when you were in a tough situation. So he shouldn’t be able to just waltz back in like nothing happened. Again, it’s Sag, so stay light, playful, and fun. But also, make it subtly known that he’s going to have to earn your attention a bit if he wants to experience you again like he did before.

  12. Thanks Loren for the reply. I went back on the dating site that we met on and one of our mutual friends texted me out of the blue. I could tell he was fishing so I just played it cool and didn’t mention him or my accident, just taking time off from the scene. I noticed my sag was on the whole time but when our friend logged off he did too. I have heard 3 different tarots and they are all the exact. I don’t want to get my hopes up. But I do still feel him. Yes, cancers are extremely emotional but over time I have learned to put them in check. I am really trying hard to focus on my recovery and work. I have not texted or reached out to him at all. I would like to reconnect but yes, he will have to come in strong and worthy because I am a queen and he knows it. So we will shall see if his stubbornness or his heart wins. Thanks again for your response. Your articles are great!

  13. Hey.

    So I’ve this online sag friend that I like,we been friends for a few years but I don’t know what he thinks of me, we talked about meeting up but he stopped responding to me and don’t even give me any attention. It’s gone a few weeks now and we usually chat a few times a week, Which ttly fine by me. I don’t like it’s when longer time than that cus I can overthink things as a Aquarius. I’ve reach out but it’s not responding what do I do? I know he moving soon cus he broke up with his boyfriend this spring so he busy with work too. He reads my msgs but nothing, and I don’t like he only reply others comments only but not mine. I causally tag him on stuff Instagram and he often likes them recently. But I get a feeling he likes or into someone else, or maybe just scared to date so soon but he likes take his time with relationships and take things slow. How do I win his attention again? I try give space and not write at all but I feel hopeless now…I’ve got a fast reading by tarot reader that heard no when I ask if he will contact me again soon.

  14. So it’s normal for them to been MIA for almost a month at a time? Yeah okay. Nobody is that busy. That shows me you are uninterested. 1st time around meeting this Sag over the summer he was super communicative, would text, and make effort to FaceTime me in the evenings when he had a quick break from work/school. He stopped and I took that as being uninterested and we went a month without talking. He rematched me on a dating app and wanted to start over but he’s doing the same thing. He said he’s on the apps for when he has time to date but he never makes time. He swears he’s so busy and has no time for anything else but stays updating his dating profile and going out of town. He even told me it wasn’t due to not being interested he stopped talking to me, it was because he was too busy. When I’ve tried to reach out to him this 2nd time around we matched it was met with attitude not even a couple of weeks later, like he literally said it better be an emergency when I asked if he was free to facetime one day (I thought maybe I wasn’t reciprocating effort or something so I wanted to chat with him as truly wanted to catch up) He apparently had a test that day but was also out of town (he goes out of town a lot to his hometown) I didn’t know because he didn’t tell me. I told him not to worry about it and he faced timed me instead to show he was doing his work; I told him to focus on his test and we’d catch up later. Never heard from him again outside me texting him a few weeks later. Haven’t heard since, letting go now because wtf. He is newly divorced as of last year so there could be some hesitation but also desire to play the field but he’s not voicing that part. I’m a Libra and I was all in but this obvious uninterested behavior and moodiness has made me lose patience and lose interest.

    1. I hear you, Delilah. I’d lose interest in someone like that, too. He’s showing a very scattered disposition and a severe lack of investment in your dynamic. I’d leave him be, if he shows up again, give him the opportunity to prove his interest. Regardless, keep looking out for a better match for you.

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