What to do when a Sagittarius Man Stops Texting Back (& Other Texting Tips)

Loren E. Elara

Loren E. Elara

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Sagittarius men aren’t always the best communicators – particularly when talking via text.

Whether through text or on the phone – it’s just not a big priority for him to maintain a constant line of communication. He can be warm and talkative one day and then suddenly drop off the map for days or even weeks.

He doesn’t need constant contact to maintain his feelings for friends, family, and lovers. He may write, call, or text you back eventually, but he may not reach out to you first unless he has something cool planned for you to do together.

Because of this, it can be really hard to read him when he’s not texting you back.

Is he mad or upset with you? Or perhaps he’s not mad at all and is simply off doing his own thing.

No matter what’s going on in his head, there are specific things you can do when a Sagittarius man isn’t texting back.

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What you should do when a sag man stops texting

Relax and take a step back. It can be stressful when a Sagittarian guy seemingly disappears on you. It might make you feel like you have to act fast to remedy the situation, perhaps by reaching out to him to see if something is wrong. But this is the last thing you should do with the Sag man. He doesn’t like rushed or stressful energy – especially when it feels unnecessary to him and makes him feel pressured.

Carry on with your life as usual. Sagittarius men are busy guys and there’s a decent chance that he hasn’t been texting you back because he’s been caught up in his busy schedule. When this happens, it’s best for you to do the same. And better for the love match, as well, since he prefers partners who can take breaks from communicating and are happy to lead a busy life while apart. When he does talk to you again, he’ll probably have fun stories to share with you and he expects you to have interesting things to share as well.

Call or text in a casual way. If you simply can’t handle the radio silence then you can send a relaxed text to check-in on him. He’s a laid back guy, so he shouldn’t mind you sending him a quick check-in (as long as a reasonable amount of time has passed since you’ve last communicated). He may be going through a tough time and would actually benefit from your companionship but didn’t want to bother you with it. The important thing here is that you come across as unflustered. You’re just checking in because he’s come across your mind – not because you’ve been stressing about him. Remember, if you come off as worried or reactive you will only push him further away. Instead be light, fun, and mention some interesting activity you were planning and see if he’ll bite on it and want to join.

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What you shouldn’t do when a Sag man stops texting

Don’t ask him if anything is wrong. One of the easiest ways to scare off a Sag man is to crowd him with worries about your relationship. And by asking him if something is wrong when he hasn’t been texting is a surefire way to get him to feel pressured. To you, it might seem like you’re concerned and caring, but to him, he sees it as prodding, needy behavior.

Don’t try to figure out what he’s been up to or be nosy in any way. Prying behavior freaks him out. As I’ve eluded to already in this article, he’s a bit of a flighty guy who hates stress and pressure. You might be really curious about what’s been going on with him, and if something is wrong with you guys, but it’s best to relax and let it go. Take a breath. Also, never stalk him or send other people to snoop on him. Because if he finds out he won’t be at all pleased with you.

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Absolutely no accusations. One of the worst things you can do is accuse him of avoiding or ghosting you. Sure, you could do this if you really are done with him and it would make you feel better to say it. But if you really like this guy, and want things to work out, then treating him like this is never a good way to get him to pay more attention to you. He will see it as possessive behavior and will want to push farther away from you. He can cut ties quickly if he wants to, and attacking him might lead him to remove you from his life.

Don’t provoke him or create drama to get him to contact you. He hates contrived or fabricated behavior. He will see it as needy and insecure if he senses that you’re trying to stir things up just to get him to reach out to you. Trying to make him jealous can backfire as well. If he sees photos of you with other guys he may just assume you’ve moved on. Or, if he sees it correctly as a way to get a rise out of him, he will label you as petty and will probably move on from you. This doesn’t mean you should avoid posting or sharing interesting things that you’ve been up on social media – do your thing. It’s the intention that counts. You should be genuinely out having a fun time and NOT just posting to try to draw him back to you.

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When a Sag man ignores your texts

Maybe you didn’t heed the warnings and decided to text him again – even though he hasn’t been getting back to you. At this point, he’s blatantly ignoring your texts.

Maybe, just maybe, he’s actually been unavailable this whole time and hasn’t had a chance to read or respond to your messages. And when he does see your messages, he will get back to you. More than likely, though, he’s grown tired of you, and you’re continual messaging just pushes him even farther away.

Unfortunately, at this point, there’s not too much you can do to compel him to reach out to you. If he’s over you there’s not too much you can do that will bring him back. Applying more pressure now will just make it even less likely.

If you really want him, you’ll have to leave things be for a while and wait it out. You can spend this time learning how to best attract him (I have a course for that).

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The most important takeaway to help you navigate him not texting you back is to manage your emotions and keep your cool. Never overreact to his absence.

Play things cool, as he does. Be engaging and make your life interesting.

If he’s been drifting away, the biggest cause is typical that he’s grown bored by your time together. Don’t take it personally, just make your life more exciting and he may come back. 

You can learn how to better attract your Sagittarius man by going through my course on attracting the Sagittarius Man. In the course, I’ve compiled some important points you’ll absolutely want to know if you want to expertly text a Sag guy.

12 thoughts on “What to do when a Sagittarius Man Stops Texting Back (& Other Texting Tips)”

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    Hi. This one was very helpful for me.
    You see I’m an Aquarius and the man I’m dating is a Sag. I’m okay with him not texting me because I’m equally terrible at keeping in touch, but after 3 days I started to worry.
    But he did day he was “busy with work, and has some personal stuff to sort out”
    I’m just really confused because our dates went so well. And the next day nothing, 2 days later he told me that, and now he’s not texting me for 3.
    My Aquarius mind can’t take this. He gives me too much time to overthink, but I guess I just have to wait it out?
    I’m not sure what to do. I don’t want to push him too far but I’m really worried about him now.

    1. Loren Elara

      Hi Agnes. Glad it helped. If the dates have gone well, I wouldn’t worry about it. Three days is par for the course with a Sag, especially if he has work stuff on his plate. Sag’s almost always put work and personal issues ahead of dating. My recommendation is t wait it out! Better to wait than potentially make him feel pressured.

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    Same here this sag man , I thought was playing hot and cold . I’ve snapped and thought he was using me . I let my friend and family put thing into my head he using you . But he told me he scared and it’s crazy how he gets feeling he said he like that someday s he cold some hot . But now I think I’ve messed it up . When we’re together we bounce of each we don’t stop laughing . What do I do ??,

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    So I’m talking to a sag guy and he texts me, I reply then he doesn’t answer for a day? Is that normal? Someone help

    1. Loren Elara

      Hi Heather. I wouldn’t sweat one day between texts. Though it does depend somewhat on the specifics of your relationship and the context of your texting. Overall, though, taking a day or more to text back shouldn’t be too surprising from a Sag.

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    Hi, with me its a bit complicated. I am married aries girl, but so happy in my marriage. Then this sag guy appears, puts tremendous effort to conquer me, chemistry at first sight, all absolutely amazing, lots of laughing and fun. After 2 months I couldnt resist anymore. The sex was even more amazing than expected. But then suddenly, he started to behave like hot and cold; when we were seeing each other was still good, but the time between, he stopped the effort and chase somehow. At first I got panicked a bit and confronted him. Bad idea, he got mad but we sorted it out. He reassured me, all was fine. He told me I needed to divorce, since I was not happy at home, but said clearly he would never commit or marry again (he is divorced). So the story continued, we kept seeing each other, but it was more me that initiated it. Then he was withdrawing a bit, I let him. Afterwards he told me that was needed because he sensed I had more feelings than himself. So now we found back together somehow, but he seems only interested in our physical chemistry, although if we meet, he is very caring but then super cold when we do not see. I would like to go back to our beginning time, when he was behaving like a normal guy falling in love with a girl. Help please. Ps regarding a divorce, now I am not yet ready..

    1. Loren Elara

      Sorry for this rollercoaster ride, Jenna. To me, it appears that this Sagittarius guy is only looking for a good time via physicality and a light relationship. He was more involved early on because it’s easier when someone is new. But he’s shown after that initial spark faded that he’s not wanting to put in the effort to make a real, lasting relationship built on love. This is unfortunate, but it’s where you’ll likely have to work from. You can either move on and find someone who is more willing to be invested in a relationship with you, or you can work to seduce this guy to get him excited for you again like in the beginning.

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    Can someone advise me?

    So I’ve been speaking to a male Sag for 11 months straight, every single day without fail and when we talk, we talk for about 3 hours at a time. Not met yet, but were planning to after Covid. I have genuinely never laughed so much in my life as I have every day I talk to him and he feels the same way, always laughing with me and we have had the deepest, most incredible chats you could possibly imagine. He started over the last month being a little distant, saying he needs to get in a better mindset by avoiding messages for a while because he feels down etc, I understood and left him to it. He then messaged each night saying goodnight and that he’s thinking of me. We briefly started talking again and were both laughing so much, but then he has just now completely avoided opening my messages for almost 2 weeks. I’m always, always there supporting him and I know he really appreciates it, we are genuinely best friends, so close. We flirt at the same time and just have the best relationship and he adores me. He says all the time how much I mean to him, but he now just won’t speak. Nothing has happened, I know for a fact he hasn’t ‘lost interest’ as I’ve heard from a friend of his how he feels about me. He remembers all the little things and says I’ve made a huge impact on his life etc and I just wish I knew how to actually work him out 🙁 I think I’ve fallen for him. I’ve obviously not admitted it to him, as want to keep him unpressured as I know he has a lot going on. But I don’t understand what is wrong! He talks to me about everything when he’s down, knowing I’ll be there for him. He loves talking to me, for a fact. And now it’s like I don’t exist! He doesn’t really feel ready for a relationship, but I knew this before, so he doesn’t in any way feel like I’m expecting something from him or anything! We are very open and honest with each other! What do you think is going on and how should I approach the situation?

    1. Loren Elara

      That’s a lot of communication for a Sagittarius. Especially before ever meeting in person. It sounds like you have a great connection though. If you are absolutely sure that he hasn’t lost interest, I would just wait for him to contact you again. He might just need a break from continuous communication. No biggie! Just keep doing your thing.

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    I am in relationship with this sag guy for a while now, around 8 months. But we had around 2 months of disconnection in the beginning only. But after that, we’ve been going smoothly as if nothing happened. But it is always me who has to text first. The 2 months gap was also because I didn’t text him first. Later on when I asked him, he said he was there only and hadn’t gone anywhere. He never initiates a conversation. But immediately replies to my texts. He is there whenever I need him, he listens to me, gives me suggestions. But he is never the first one to plan things, or ask me out. So sometimes I feel as if he is not that interested in me.

    1. Loren Elara

      Hi Sharma. It seems like you have a good connection. But yes, if he never reaches out then his interest could very well be low. I would recommend that you learn more about him/his sign and discover more ways to appeal to him and build his attraction for you.

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        Thank you Loren. For a while I thought he needed some space, so I decided to not talk for some time. But how long should the space be given? Sometimes I feel he really adores me, like he replies my midnight texts too, immediately, he gives me his subscription of different websites. He just doesn’t initiate whatever there is by himself. So sometimes I find nothing to talk about and I fear these all will just fade away. I really want this to work out.

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