5 Clear Signs a Virgo Man isn’t Into You (Has He Lost Interest?)

Loren E. Elara

Loren E. Elara

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It can be hard to know when a guy is into you or not.

Men are a bit complex, especially the shy ones (like Virgo).

But it’s important to understand where you stand with him if you’re attempting to establish (or maintain) a relationship.

You don’t want to waste energy on a guy who’s just not that into you.

If you’re having a hard time deciding whether the Virgo guy in your life is interested in you or not, read on!

1. He won’t give you that signature gaze of his

Virgo men are cautious when showing interest and building attraction. He likes to utilize a low-risk quality of his to show his interest – and that’s his signature, penetrative gaze.

While not as intense as a Scorpios gaze, his is still unmistakable. He rests his eyes on the subject of his interest with soft, puppy dog eyes that make you feel warm and wanted, yet also a little unnerved.

If he doesn’t have any interest in you, you won’t get this look from him. Instead, it’s likely that he’ll avoid making much eye contact with you, and might be abrupt and impatient with you if you try to engage with him.

2. He doesn’t seem interested in talking to you

Virgo men have bright, active minds and love to talk and converse. This is especially apparent when he has a crush. He will text, call and hang out with his crush constantly, seemingly never running out of things to talk about or questions to ask them.

When he’s not into someone, the situations reverse. He will avoid talking about just about everything. He won’t engage or ask you questions.

It can be pretty easy to tell, then, if he doesn’t like you buy asking a few specific questions. If you know about any of his hobbies or interests, then you can try to ask him some intriguing questions about it. You could ask for specific details about it (he loves to share details). If he shows no sign of interest in your inquiry, you can bet that he’s not interested in you.

Bottom line, if he’s started to speak less with you, stopped returning your calls, hardly responds through text and rarely texts first, or otherwise is paying you less attention, he’s likely lost or is losing interest in you.

3. He doesn’t offer to help you out with anything

Virgo is the sign of service and Virgo guys love to help out their friends, families, partners, and crushes.

If he cares about you, he’ll help out with anything – chores, diet advice, home projects, work projects, etc. He’ll take an interest in your activities and will keep track of what’s going on with you so he can be available if needed.

There will be a clear absence of this energy if he’s not into you. He won’t present interest in your life or what you need to get done. He won’t try to steer you towards healthy living (which he loves to do), he won’t offer to run errands for you or fix anything of yours that in disrepair.

If you have been spending time together, but he hasn’t offered to help you with anything, it’s because he doesn’t want to give you any false hope about being in a relationship together. It is in itself a strong sign that he doesn’t see a future together.

When he holds off on his urge to be helpful, its because he is trying to not give you false hope about a future relationship. He’s trying to make it clear there is no future together.

4. He makes no time for you

Virgo guys are organized and like to keep a tight schedule.

He’s super choosey about who he’ll spend time with. He’s also an introvert and appreciates his alone time more than most people.

No one should expect him to carve out time in his schedule unless they play an important role in his life.

If he’s not into you, he won’t adjust his beloved routine or schedule to accommodate you. He rarely even does this early on with a love interest, as he takes time to warm up.

If he really isn’t into you, then he might change his schedule to avoid you. That’s a big sign if he does that. He could stop going to his regular hangouts that you also frequent, or make other less obvious changes to his schedule in an effort not to run into you.

If this is the case, making an effort to get him to hang out with you will be fruitless. He will always find some reason to avoid or cancel on you. He might say he’s busy, already has plans, has a lot of work to do, etc. He is super cautious with his time and won’t waste it on anyone who he deems nonessential to his life or plans for the future.

5. When asked, he won’t even attempt to hide his lack of interest

Virgo guys don’t like games and are always aware of where other people stand with them.

If he’s not interested in you and has been avoiding you, it’s because he wants to let you down very gently. He’s not malicious and has no desire to hurt anyone.

If you’re really into him, it’s worth asking him if he shares your feelings at all. Virgo’s don’t like to fake or hide feelings, so it might be a relief for him to just admit to you that he’s not into you.

He’s direct and practical with most things in life, so he might even go out of his way to directly tell you that he’s lost interest in you.

If you want to know why he’s not into you, then you can ask that, to. He’s honest and pretty aware of the details of his assessments of other people.


Virgo guys are incredibly loving once committed, but they’re hard to attract. If you want help making him like you and gaining his trust, read through my detailed course on how to attract a Virgo man.

Hi, I’m Loren. Welcome to Popular Astrology. You can learn more about me and this website here.

10 thoughts on “5 Clear Signs a Virgo Man isn’t Into You (Has He Lost Interest?)”

  1. As a Virgo man, I have a slight concern with number 2. I am silent a lot of the time because I get puppy love and shut up vocally when with my partner. It’s not my fault, I’m just admiring her. So, to all the women out there reading this, just know, if he doesn’t say much on the phone, it’s because he likes to measure his spoken words carefully and clearly.

  2. I’ve been with a Virgo for almost 4years he is big on trust and knowing that his property is his and only his but I think I make him feel less o a man because he doesn’t have a job right now but he was always the bread winner and I am acred that’s bothering him he is extremely closed off and I don’t see him areountd much but he jus wants to know I’m not cheating and I she jus wait on him to get his shit together is that a common attitude of a Virgo male or has he found someone else but not sure if he wants to move on so he keeps me around

  3. I just met a Virgo guy and I must say things are pretty cool .. we’ve also discussed just vibing until what ever happens happens… I think he likes me but he runs multiple businesses so we barely spend time together and talk .. I can tell he’s shy which is the cutest but I don’t mind it at all I’m a Leo and we tend to make the ones around us very comfortable to be themselves.. we’ve known each other so far since March he’s told me a likes me .. I’m just going with the flow until “whatever happens happens “ 🤷🏾‍♀️

    1. Hi Quan! How is it going with the Virgo man? I’m also a Leo liking a Virgo, but things aren’t going that smooth here haha.

      1. I’m also a Leo dating / loving a Virgo man .. sometimes I really want to say I’m done ..he’s very practical and think he knows everything, and sometimes don’t like to listen . I find myself getting quiet when we butt heads , I say what I have to say and then I’m done, or I might say let’s agree to disagree. Sometimes he will apologize and tell me he loves me other times he will bring it up again and again and that can be frustrating. In the end I love him and he loves me , just have to find a way to balance each other and listen to each other .

  4. I’m an Aries woman who met a Virgo man the signals are crazy it’s driving me crazy just hesitant back-and-forth make a suggestion I’m going somewhere with him and then make an excuse as to why he doesn’t think it’s a good idea texted on the phone called video chatted saw one another for the first time His words he likes what he sees yes busy with the job Children but it’s like pulling teeth to get responses to text he saves my voice text but no response since after we met at least not like he was before we met but he liked what he saw saw his signals very confusing and we know with Aries woman we just want u to tell me you like me or not if you don’t I’ll keep it moving I don’t believe in this cat and mouse games there frustrating.

  5. Im with a virgo guy 3 Years and counting we have a baby recently but befor and still he doesnt do his part in the house way as goceries bills etc… I do most of everything & i find its unfair now im struggling to reopen My buiness and i dont have his support either way he keeps saying get it dont i myself… Like why i want a future with him but seem he dont or doesnt Care… He always make me feel im not good enuf & less of myself for him

    1. so im a Virgo woman dating a Virgo man and I’m seeing alot of comments that let’s me know im not alone the most part for me is seeing that he doesn’t text or call me as he use to and he sometimes makes me feel like im not important like I use to be to him like at time he makes me feel he wanna talk to other women without me by the way I like women to but I want a relationship were we can have fun but im not being replaced because we aren’t on good terms I want to know if that’s even a good idea with a Virgo man mostly I wanna know how can I get my man to make me feel like he cares about and care to text and call me like he once did show me im his and he is mines because I love him and we good at times but he makes me feel im the problem all the times

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