The Scorpio Man: Everything you’ve Wanted to Know

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Loren E. Elara

Loren E. Elara

Hi, I'm the resident astrologer on the site. I hope you enjoy this article. If you have any questions or insights of your own let us know in the comments

Scorpio Male Traits

He’s intense. If there’s a personality trait that defines Scorpio, this is it. His intense nature can be seen in his eyes and in his transfixing stare. His eyes are the most penetrating of the zodiac. When trying to figure out if someone is a Scorpio, hold your gaze with theirs. A Scorpio can’t help but give himself away. His eyes will always reveal him.

He’s passionate. Scorpio lives and breathes passion. It’s also one of his most defining characteristics. If something or someone does not evoke a passionate response from him then he’s not interested. He is black and white like this. He despises middling around and half-heartedness. He’s either in or he’s out. There are no grey areas for Scorpio.

He’s an enigma. Scorpio has a magnetic presence and a complexity that’s hard to describe in words. He’s certainly the most mysterious sign of the Zodiac. Thus painting an adequate picture of him becomes difficult. So much of his internal life exists in the dimensions that our surface-level culture rarely touches on. It’s even tricky for other Scorpios to understand him, and that’s saying something.

He’s ambitious. All Scorpios share a sense that their life is important and that they’re here to make an impact on the world. He needs his life to matter, and to feel fulfilled he must be constantly growing to new and greater heights. Scorpio is a savvy businessman and social climber. He knows how to get to the top of any group or organization (the only other sign who might beat him there is Capricorn.)

He’s misunderstood. Scorpio stands out while simultaneously keeping things pretty much under wraps. It’s hard to describe a Scorpio and even the common things he is known for are often misinterpretations. Because of this people can project all kinds of things onto him. That he’s bad, or evil, or twisted. For example, there’s a lot of talk about Scorpio’s sexuality. It’s probably the first thing people mention when they discuss the sign. Yet the interpretations of his sexual nature are typically misunderstandings based on simplified generalizations (more on Scorpio sexuality later).

He’s hyper-sensitive. Scorpio is highly emotional to the world around him. He has a soft emotional core and senses everything that goes on with the people around him. He will rarely show how sensitive he is, though, But don’t let that fool you. He is perhaps the most emotionally sensitive and perceptive sign of the zodiac.

He’s wise. Scorpio has an innate grasp of the mundane aspects of human life. He understands people’s natures and knows the inner workings of society. He also knows spirituality and can grow a great deal in this life on that sort of path. If you ever have an important question or decision to make, seek out Scorpio to get the answers you seek.

He’s protective. Scorpio is fiercely protective of the people he cares about. He doesn’t let too many people get close to him, but once someone is in his inner circle he will do everything he can to take care of them.

He’s confident. He knows who he is and who he isn’t, and because of this can easily let criticism roll off his back. He is generally unaffected by compliments and will simply nod in agreement when given one. He can have an ego, but he’s not a big showboat. And it doesn’t mean he’s without doubts, he definitely is, but they’re typically of a more existential nature.

He’s self-aware. Scorpio is hyper-aware of himself and the interactions he has with other people. And he can’t help but analyze every interaction and how his actions come off to others. Even when he is acting out of alignment or in self-sabotaging ways he maintains a general self-awareness. So even when he’s acting mindlessly, he’s self-aware of it.

He’s creative. And he always leaves a mark on people and things that he touches. He’s guided by a potent emotional nature which is deep and full of dimension. He knows how to tap into both the destructive and constructive energies of human nature and bring them to life. This allows him to churn out great artwork that touches people in a deep way.

He’s curious. Scorpio wants to understand the hidden nature of everything in life and everything around him, especially the inner workings of other people. This trait is related to his need to be in control of his surroundings. To feel safe in life he needs to feel like he knows what’s going on around him. He is very perceptiveness and has strong abilities as a researcher, which can make him a great detective. He is a master at asking questions that are both direct and penetrating. He rarely takes others’ answers at face value, however, and comes to his own conclusions. He will obsess about something until he knows everything there is to know about it, leaving no stone left unturned. Overall these traits help him succeed in life, but they can also get him into trouble sometimes. If he finds himself fixated on something that’s unhealthy, he can let it overwhelm and consume him.

He never forgets a slight against him. Scorpio needs to to be able to trust someone if he’s going to let them in. Thus he will never forget a time when he was wronged by somebody. He may forgive, but he won’t forget.

He can be self-destructive. When hurt or unhappy a Scorpio may resort to self-sabotage in an attempt to self-soothe his pain. Think of a wounded Scorpion that is backed into a corner. He has his stinger raised and ready to attack. If he doesn’t have a clear target and is racked with stress, he might just end up sinking that stinger right into his own back.

He is connected to death and spiritual realms. The supernatural, the occult, astrology, mystical things.. All these are in the realm of Scorpio. Scorpio is the sign of birth, death, and transformation after all. He is innately drawn to mystery and the unknown, which often turns him into a spiritual aspirant as he matures. He has an unrelenting desire to understand what is unknown. And what is the biggest unknown of all? Death, and the realms beyond our mundane existence.  He might not always be conscious of it, but dangle some otherworldy mystery in front of him and he’s sure to have a strong response.

He’s not overly expressive. Scorpio tends to hold his cards close to his chest. This is because he hates to feel vulnerable. Even if he is involved in expressive arts like theatre or acting when it comes to his personal life he is less expressive than most. Of course, this doesn’t mean that he doesn’t feel an abundance of emotions (he does), but rather that he feels at an instinctive level to contain them until it’s expression is entirely needed.

He can be guarded and stand-offish.  At his core, Scorpio is soft, caring and sensitive. He just hates showing weakness and vulnerability so he learns early on to put up a self-protective mask. Scorpio children tend to have intense childhoods, and if he suffered any neglect or abuse when young it can be very hard for him to open up to others later in life. To let his guard down Scorpio needs to feel that a person (or environment) is both physically and emotionally safe. A challenging thing for the ever-cautious Scorpio to find. But no matter how guarded he may seem at any given time, always remember that it is a mask that he wears, not his true self. He’s really a softy once you get close to him.

He’s secretive. Even when Scorpio lets his guard down with someone he can’t help but still keep some of his secrets hidden away. His feelings and fears run so deep that his subconscious makes it near impossible for him to open up fully. This also means that some of his secret motivations are hidden even from himself. His concealed nature can unnerve those who are close to him and make outsiders wonder if he has malicious intent. While he certainly can harbor maliciousness, this is usually not the case.

He’s persistent. Like all fixed Signs, Scorpio is stubborn in the pursuit of his goals. Scorpio will have many setbacks in his life. He is the sign of transformation and life seems to confront him with growth opportunities at every turn. But no matter the obstacle he never gives up on the things that matter to him. His life is a constant cycle of crash, burn and rise from the ashes. He’ll never once second-guess his ability to achieve his goal in the end, even if he’s forced to table a goal for years.

He can be demanding. Scorpio is one of the most demanding men of the zodiac. He expects and demands a lot out of people. Even though he has high standards and expectations, he may not always live up to them himself.

He experiences many trials and tribulations in his life. Scorpio is here to transform. As such, he constantly runs into challenges that he must confront and conquer. Every obstacle he faces is an opportunity for him to grow into a better version of himself. Sometimes he may recoil from challenges, but his attempts at resistance will only lead him to bigger upheavals down the road. Scorpio cannot escape his path of transformation, he must learn to revel in it.

He has a penchant for arguing. Scorpio loves intellectual discourse, being right and he’s not the type to back down. This is a recipe for a forceful debater. Always be wary when in a heated debate with a Scorpio. He is a prideful, emotional being and if he feels offended he can turn from jovial to vicious on a dime. He hates to lose or to be wrong about anything. In fact, he has a hard time admitting (or even believing it) when he is wrong.

He likes being in the spotlight. But only so often. Depending on his mood Scorpio will oscillate from hiding in the shadows to shining in the spotlight. He knows instinctively how to charm and dominate a social situation. He’s outwardly poised, though of course, this can be a mask for an intense, hidden personality that simmers beneath his curated exterior. The moment he loses his sense of safety or control he will withdraw back into his protective shell, and out of the limelight.

He can have an explosive temper. Scorpio man comes with a sting. He’s intense, serious and sometimes stern. He always keeps a cool exterior, but when threatened can lash out with intensity. Always be cautious around a Scorpio who seems on edge or backed into a corner. Unlike the quickly erupting anger of fellow Mars-ruled Aries, Mars-Pluto ruled Scorpio tends to quietly simmer before exploding. If you observe him closely you should be able to catch when he starts to stew inside.

At times he can lack empathy. Scorpio is normally an empathetic friend and lover. But when he feels low he can get lost in his depths and isn’t able to express what’s boiling inside of him. When this happens he shuts down and becomes cold and uncaring towards friends and family members.  He’s even capable of becoming twisted and sadistic if he is off center enough. Because he is normally caring and supportive it can be quite confusing when he goes cold like this.

He’s a problem solver. Scorpio is intuitive and resourceful, making him a great friend to help you solve any kind of issue. He’s also super honest. So if you’re sick of getting lackluster advice, go to Scorpio for the real gems of truth.

He’s courageous. Scorpio is known for his bravery on the battle-field. Many famous generals and war-heroes were born under the sign of Scorpio. He is strategic, unafraid and fiercely protective of those in his ranks. He will put his life and reputation on the line to protect the people and causes that are important to him.

Next, how does a Scorpio man act when he’s in love?

Scorpio Man in Love

How does a Scorpio man act when he’s in Love?

He wants to go deep with you. When a Scorpio man is falling in love with you he will want to peer deep into your soul. He will want to know every important thing about you and he will even help you find out things you don’t yet know about yourself.

He’s very physical. A Scorpio in love is an incredibly physical lover. He loves on all levels, mind, body, and spirit. For this to work though he needs to have a physical connection with you. His desire to merge with his partner will be thwarted without intense physical closeness. Without it, he will be missing a very important aspect of the connection.

He’s protective. He wants to protect those who matter to him and will do so at all costs. It’s endearing, and his intentions are always good. But a Scorpio in love can sometimes go overboard with his protectiveness, crossing the line into possessiveness or overly shielding you from the world.

He’s deeply loyal. When a Scorpio man is in love he is rarely promiscuous. Sometimes people believe Scorpios to be licentious because of their highly sexual nature, but this is a mischaracterization. Above all, sex for Scorpio is about depth of feeling. He is a fixed sign, and once he sets his mind on someone he tends to commit unwaveringly. He is very selective, but once he’s emotionally connected with someone it’s hard for him to detach. Once a Scorpio finds a partner that he deems worthy he will tend to stay with the relationship for life.

He’s incredibly tuned in to his lover. Scorpio is a feminine (water) sign with an incredible depth of emotionality and intuitive comprehension of his lover’s states. He understands intimately how a woman feels; how she’s sensitive to her own emotions, moods, etc. His understanding is not superficial either, not mentally but from a deep, almost biological knowing.

How to Attract a Scorpio Man

 

Get to know his traits. How to seduce a Scorpio man? Understand how he works. Read the traits listed at the beginning of the article multiple times. And don’t stop there. Research more into the Scorpio persona. The more you understand this mysterious man the more likely you’ll be able to attract this notoriously guarded man.

Be a genuinely nice person. One of the things Scorpio hates most is people who are fake and ingenuine. He’s a deep guy and he’s drawn to deep, genuine people. If you’re used to hiding behind a mask, don’t bother. He can see right through it, and through you. He reads non-verbal clues easily. If you want to attract a Scorpio man you must be in touch with yourself and carry a good soul.

Show confidence and composure. What attracts Scorpio men most? Women who are confident and in control. To attract Scorpio you must stand out, but not by being loud or flashy. Scorpio is turned on by quiet strength. They can feel your aura, so sit back, relax and emanate a calm and unphased quality.

Showcase your feminine charms. Typically, Scorpio is a dominant man who is attracted to highly feminine and submissive women. The higher the sexual polarities between you are the more he will be drawn into you. Note that being submissive to him doesn’t mean being weak. He doesn’t want a woman who submits to the rest of the world, only to him.

Show him your powerful side. Scorpio wants to have a powerful partner. He is drawn to people who inspire envy in others. It’s not all about looks. It’s also commanding social skills, professional achievement, and dominant humor. Any traits that other people gravitate towards and like. Overall he will be much more attracted to a partner (or potential partner) if they stir admiration in the people around them. So showcase any powerful aspects of your personality, because this guy appreciates that.

Make sure he sees you looking your best. Scorpio wants his partner to be physically attractive. Even though he’s a deep guy he still focuses a lot on physical appearances. He appreciates a woman who is in shape and takes good care of herself. Dress seductively, but don’t show it all. Show a bit of cleavage, a bit of skin, but have everything else covered up. They like the mystery of it all. They like to picture what you look like underneath. So always do your best to look your best, and he will take note.

Pay close attention to what he says. Scorpio men don’t reveal much, especially early on in a relationship. So when he does talk, pay close attention. He might just reveal something that’s important to his psychology. Treat anything he reveals like gold because such revelations are rare.

Be honest with him. He knows when you’re lying and it bothers him. Still think you can sneak something by him? Scorpio is like a walking, human lie detector. Even if you do manage to deceive him, he will eventually find out. And it’s not a good look for you.

Respect his tight-lipped nature. Scorpio prefers to keep his feelings concealed. He’s not necessarily trying to be secretive, he just respects private things. You might not have a clue how much he likes you, other than you might notice a smoldering, burning energy when you’re around him or he stares at you longer than what’s normal. Even if you pick up his attraction don’t prod or push him about declarations of interest. He will let you know his feelings when he’s ready.

Help him soften his heart. Scorpio is the most cautious man of the zodiac, and being on guard all the time can be tiring. So help him loosen up a bit. He needs to be coaxed out of him. Make him feel safe, loved and taken care of. Most importantly show him that you are patient and that he can trust you.

Never try to control him. It’s not a good idea to butt heads with Scorpio man. Especially if you are trying to get him to do something that he doesn’t want to do. He hates being controlled. You must let him live life on his own terms. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t stick up for yourself. You should always stick up for your own needs and independence. He might not like it, but he will respect you for it. And it will make things a lot easier for you in the long run.

Don’t be phased if he acts hot and cold. Opening up in relationships is challenging for Scorp, so he might subconsciously play games to test you. One day he’s warm and sweet with you, the next he’s suddenly cold and distant. These men take relationships very seriously and they value honesty, consistency, and they’re incredibly trustworthy themselves once in a relationship. But early on they can play these hot and cold games to test the waters (aka your resolve) in their own way.  Try to not let it phase you. Know that once they do become serious their stable, trustworthy and honest side dominates.

Don’t be easily unnerved. Scorpio can be blunt and cutting. He is attracted to women who do not get easily offended and can handle any taboo or discursive topics that he brings up.

Don’t pander to his ego. Scorpio knows his own worth, and unnecessary flattery turns him off. He doesn’t need you to constantly praise him or build him up. He’s not a Leo. If anything, trying to please his ego all the time will just cause him to question your motives.

Reveal yourself to him slowly. Scorpio loves mysteries and the unknown. He gets bored with people that he can figure out easily – which is the majority of people he comes across. He’s that good at understanding a person. So be mysterious. Make yourself a puzzle for him to figure out. By being vague and alluring you will make him want to figure you out.

Play a little hard to get. It’s a turn off for Scorp to feel like you want him more than he wants you. He doesn’t want an easy girl, at least not as a long-term partner. He wants to make sure you’re worthy of his devotion. He’ll be far more impressed if you seem a little aloof and disinterested than if you’re swooning all over him. So delay satisfaction, tease him a little. You can even be a little mean to him. It will stir him up (in a good way). Don’t worry if you make him feel a little rejected. Sure, he might get a little mad or upset. But overall he’s less sensitive about this than other signs. It might just give him the push he needed to come after you.

Emphasize your loyal nature. Scorpio has a sore spot around loyalty. His worst fear is having someone close, especially a partner, betray him intimately. So go out of your way to show that you honor and appreciate loyalty in every aspect of life.

Be involved in a cause. Scorpio has an innate desire to make an impact on the world by improving society and people’s lives. If you have a passion that you care deeply about; whether it be social, environmental, or political, share it with him. He will be able to connect with you more easily because he sees you share a common dream of improving life on the planet.

Don’t challenge him publicly. Watch out if you’re the type that likes to prove to others that you can hold your own in a relationship. While Scorpio invites critiques and differences in opinion in private, he will not like it if you challenge him in front of people. It will cast him in a critical light, which he doesn’t like, and he will resent your approval seeking behavior. Disagreeing with him in a playful way is fine (and recommended). But if he senses that you’re actually openly challenging him in front of others he will take it as a threat and will find it hard to fully trust you.

Make some sexual jokes. Scorp man likes this. There’s always a smoldering sexual energy beneath Scorpio’s measured appearance. Underneath all of his interactions there lies a sexual tension. So if you broach sexuality, especially in a joking manner, he will be intrigued. And since sex is so important to Scorpio, you can glean a lot about him based on his reactions or any jokes or comments he makes himself.

Create an appealing environment. Scorpio loves beautiful, attractive spaces and places. If you have a great house, find a way to bring him to it. If you know of a beautiful, secret location in your town, bring him there.

Don’t change who you are to please him. He wants a partner who is real and unabashedly themselves. Don’t rush to change yourself if there’s something you like to do that he’s not into, or you have an interest that he’s opposed to. Don’t be afraid to defy him a little. Remember, he wants to be with a powerful partner. Not a pushover. If your differences really are that big then it perhaps wasn’t meant to be for you two. It’s better to realize that early than being stuck in a relationship that you’ve sacrificed who you are for.

Know that he is incredibly selective with high standards. A Scorpio man will need a partner who satisfies his myriad qualifications in a lover. He needs to be satisfied with the depth of their personality, how they dress, how they spend their time, etc. If he chooses you, there’s something about you they picked out as important. In relationship he expects his partner to have consistent, logical and measured responses to circumstances. In contrast, he hates flaky, indecisive, and inconsistent people.

Next, how to know if a Scorpio man likes you.

10 Signs that a Scorpio Man likes You

1.) You catch his penetrating eyes digging into you. Scorpio loves a good mystery. He’ll try to figure out a potential romantic partner quickly by studying their every move. Being under his gaze can feel a little unnerving for you. You might feel exposed and vulnerable as from his look. But if you feel this from Scorpio, rest assured that he’s got some interest in you.

2.) You hear that he’s been asking around about you. A Scorpio with a crush is a man obsessed. He must know everything there is to know about you. He’s normally pretty cautious about revealing his newfound obsession in you, but it might get slipped to you that he’s been poking around for information about you. You know a Scorpio man is falling for you when he’s snooping around like this.

3.) He’s intensely focusing his attention on you. You’ll probably only catch this if he’s open to you knowing about his interest. If he doesn’t want you to know, you probably won’t. He will secretly, obsessively stalk you day in and day out. Seeking info about you on all social media & Google searches. He’s sneaky, but if you pay close attention to how he’s acting when he’s around you he can’t help but give himself away. He also might try to keep tabs on you. What you’re doing, where you’re going, who you’re going to be with. It might be a little creepy at first, him keeping tabs on you like this is him being interested in you.

4.) He touches you “by accident”. Scorpio loves to touch and get physical. So you can be sure of his interest if he’s hovering close enough to graze your shoulder when he passes. Or any other seemingly aloof physical touch that he pretends he didn’t mean to do it but you know that he did.

5.) He tests you. Scorpio always knows exactly what buttons to push with people. He normally holds off with this, but he will probably test some by pressing a few of your buttons to see what you do. Don’t expect him to own up to it. He’ll probably act aloof, but rest assured, it probably means he likes you.

6.) He wants to spend a lot of time with you. Scorpio is a mostly solitary creature. Even if he has a lot of friends, he’ll only be truly close with a select few. Scorp isn’t always interested in finding new people to befriend. So if he is seeking you out, you must have really caught his attention. Even if he’s just looking to be your friend, consider yourself lucky. Take advantage of his interest and show him how great you are.

7.) He wants to know all of your secrets. And it won’t be just the standard embarrassing childhood stories. No, he’ll be after all of your dark, weird stories and your hidden quirks.

8.) He includes you in his social groups. You can be pretty sure of Scorpio’s interest if he is inviting you to spend time with his friends and family. Family and close friends are important to this man, and if he’s wanting you to be a part of his tight-knit crowd, well, you can bet he’s grown quite fond of you.

9.) He shares private things about himself with you. This is a telltale sign of Scorpio attraction. He’s notoriously slow to let people into his inner sanctum, so if he’s revealing personal things to you, he’s definitely into you. There’s no other explanation for a Scorpio revealing himself so freely. He has a hard enough time opening up to close family and friends. There’s almost no doubting his attraction for you if he is revealing genuine secrets or private information to you.

10.) He pines after you secretly while outwardly treating you with destain. This happens when Scorpio is being insecure about revealing his interest. It’s a way for him to analyze you safely from a distance while testing to see where you stand. If he does this and you sense that he’s shielding his attraction, be assured that he has a thing for you but is not sure yet where you stand with him.

Of course, he might also just tell you that he likes you. A typical Scorpio prefers to hide his initial attraction until he’s gone through his full reconnaissance process (aka stalking you to the point of finding everything there is to know about you). But Scorpio can be blunt, and sometimes he just won’t be able to hold back. If a Scorpio tells you he likes you it’s safe to assume he’s already thoroughly observed you from a distance for who knows how long.

Dating a Scorpio Man

Allow him to be chivalrous. Scorpio likes a strong, empowered woman. But he also prefers a feminine woman who defers to him and likes to be taken care of by her man. So when dating, go out of your way to let him dote on you. Slow down before you reach the door so he can open it for you. Tell him what you like to eat and drink so he can order it for you. He wants to come off as powerful and in control. So help him to embody those qualities and Scorpio will grow more and more attracted to you.

Show him your independent nature. Scorpio doesn’t want to see you clingy, especially early on. Scorpios are turned off by displays of dependency and weakness. Yes, if he likes you he wants to see you get attached. He wants to have your exclusive focus and devotion. But he also wants a woman who can handle being alone, make her own friends, and develop her hobbies and professional interests.

Be ready to take things slow at first. Scorpio takes time to open up. There are so many things that Scorpio man is not going to tell you in the beginning. Scorpio is a protective sign and will not risk exposing too much that could possibly be used to attack him in the future. He also appreciates a good mystery or challenge in the woman he’s dating. Be discreet when revealing yourself. With Scorpio, it’s best to make him do the work to get to know you and to pace the process out. Be aware that he’s good at quickly understanding people. You have to consciously act mysterious with the highly perceptive ones. Confuse him a bit, intentionally throw him off the trail a bit here and there and he will go wild for you.

Always support him around others. It’s good to be on his side at all times, but especially in social situations. Always stand by your Scorpio if someone is critiquing him. Do not join in with others who are joking at his expense. He needs to feel that he can trust those he’s close to. If he gets even a sliver of a sense that you’re not there for him 100% all the time, watch out. With Scorpio, you’re either with him or you’re against him.

Let him have his female friends. Scorpio is highly attracted to the feminine nature, and sometimes he’ll have a lot of female friends, perhaps more than male friends. Do not get upset by this or show jealousy. Scorpio has a bit of a double standard around jealousy. He can be jealous to the extreme, but he expects his partner to not be so jealous of him.

Know that he will amplify whatever emotions you show him. Scorpio has a radar for how you are feeling. Show him a negative side, and he will amplify your negativity back at you. Show him your loving side and he will mirror it with his. Own your feelings, act genuinely and his respect for you will grow.

Be aware of his jealous and possessive nature. Every Scorpio has the potential to get intensely jealous. When he gets fearful or threatened in a relationship he will often revert to this protective tendency. Suspicion can develop into paranoia and the Scorpio can sometimes slip into aggressive, neurotic behavior. Unfortunately, Scorpio can cling to you prematurely while dating and sometimes get jealous very early in the relationship. If you can, try to accept this potential in his nature. If you want to be with him, simply reassure him of your loyalty to him and let the jealousy blow over.

Make sure to assert yourself and your freedom. This is especially important if you’re the type of person who likes having a lot of space in relationship. Remember, Scorpio can get clingy and jealous early on in a relationship. He can also get controlling. Always make sure that you’ve set up strong boundaries with a Scorpio. He will want to consume you in every way, so make sure that he’s only taking what you’re wanting to give him.

Show him that you’re emotionally loyal. You might find a Scorpio who forgives you if you cheat on him physically, and he might even cheat himself for purely physical gratification. For him, a relationship is all about emotional loyalty. He wants to know that you’re solid and always there for him. The Scorpio inner world is so intense, so deep and so vulnerable that emotional reliability is essential for him to feel happy and safe in relationship. He needs you to be entirely there and he needs to feel that he has some kind of ownership over you emotionally.

Be sexually open. When it comes to the bedroom, Scorpio likes things to get very hot and heavy, both physically and emotionally. He wants to ravish your body and he wants to merge with your soul. It’s a wild ride. So let him have you. Let him possess your body and enter your soul. He will want to dominate and he will want to push your sexual limits. As long as you’re not made uncomfortable, go with the flow. Sex with Scorpio is a powerful experience. Rest assured that you’re experiencing something that you’d never be able to replicate with another sign.

Be cautious that he’s not playing you. This tends to come from Scorpios with lower integrity. When they know they’re not going to be with someone long-term they still might pursue the relationship but only with the potential for a fling in mind. This can be rough for the partner because Scorpio will still show them all of his intense focus and he can really take them for a spin, only to later divulge his lack of seriousness about the relationship.

Dating a Scorpio will always be an intense experience. No matter the outcome of the relationship, you won’t forget this man. The intense experience of this lover will haunt you for the rest of your life.

Scorpio Man in Bed

How to Sexually please a Scorpio man. To make your Scorpio satisfied in your bed simply allow him to take control. Sex with Scorpio is a wild ride. Be present, be open and let him ravish you. He wants to feel like the alpha between the sheets, so emphasize your submissive side. If you’re more sexually experienced than him, don’t flaunt it. Expect things to get kinky, too. Satisfy those dark, taboo urges in him and he will fall at your knees.

He sees sex as deeply spiritual. While Scorpio loves raw, animalistic sexual expressions, he also sees sex as a potent spiritual outlet. Expect Scorpio to be drawn to tantric forms of sexuality and want to explore them with you during some of your sexcapades.

He needs sex to be deeply bonding. Scorpio wants to get as close as humanly possible with his partner, and sex is the best tool for him to be able to do that. This means sex with Scorpio has less to do with orgasms and more about getting on a certain level of intense connection.

Sex with Scorpio means baring your souls. When you’re engaged in sex you’re at your most wide open. There’s no mask to hide behind, you’re entirely exposed. You express in ways you wouldn’t in ordinary life. You say things you wouldn’t normally say, do things you wouldn’t normally do. And these are the things Scorpio wants to see most from his partner. All the little, hidden idiocracies underneath you’re usual demeanor.

Next, what to do when a Scorpio man is upset or losing interest.

How to Get a Scorpio Man Back

Coax him out of his tendency to shut down after a breakup. Scorpio tends to close off and grow cold after a split. He does this as a protective measure, not because he wants to be mean to you. It’s his way of avoiding vulnerability and protecting himself from future disappointment and pain due to the relationship. You can counter this by, first, giving him a little bit of space. Don’t press him super hard, as that’s never a good look. When you do have the opportunity to talk to him, be gentle, understanding and remind him of all the good times you’ve have had together.

Make him feel (a little) jealous. Scorpio is at his most insecure after a breakup, and what does an insecure Scorpio tend to do? Get jealous. He will probably cringe just at the idea of you getting on with another man. This affects his self-esteem, which is something to leverage. So if you want him back provoke his need to be the only one to possess you by dangling in front of him the idea that you’re content on your own or at ease with finding another partner. This will stir him up and provoke him to try to claim you once more. Be cautious though not to get him too upset with jealousy. If you flaunt it too much he might get upset enough to genuinely lose interest in you.

Remind him of your reliability. Perhaps the relationship went south because he lost faith in you. Maybe you were inconsistent or untrustworthy at times. Perhaps you have a history of telling him you’d act a certain way but not end up following through. Even little inconsistencies can add up to seriously irritate Scorpio. Get him back by emphasizing your renewed reliability. Show him, in any little way you can, that you’re better now and he can trust you to be consistent.

Stop trying to change him. No one’s perfect, and I’m sure your Scorpio man has some flaws. But did you make a habit out of critiquing him during your relationship? If your partnership went south partly because of things you didn’t like about him, there’s little you can do to force change out of him. If you really want to be with him, learn to accept him for the way he is (or another woman will).

Make him miss you by showing him your independence. Scorpio man wants a woman who is strong and independent. Perhaps part of the problem with your relationship was that you lost yourself in it. Scorpio wants you to love and dote on him, but he doesn’t want you to be codependent. So show him that you’re having fun without him, that you’re doing things, exploring yourself. This will allure him and make him want to rediscover you. Above all show him that you’re happy, rather than wallowing after the breakup.

Have sex with him. Scorpio bonds intensely through sex. If he’s on the fence about getting back with you but is willing to get at least a little intimate you are in a good place. If you two end up having sex again, he will likely start to develop the feels for you all over.

Next, who is Scorpio man Compatible with?

Best Matches & Compatibility for Scorpio Man

What are the most compatible signs for Scorpio? Overall the best matches for Scorpio man are fellow water signs and the earth signs.

Capricorn

Thes natives go together very well and make an unstoppable team that’s built to last. They’re both loyal signs that are comfortable with commitment. The’yre both powerful, ambitious, good with money, and like to plan for the long term. These two both value hard work and create incredible material successes together. Sexual sparks fly, and all goes well as long as Capricorn is willing to occasionally let Scorpio dominate them (both are naturally very dominant people).

Virgo

Both of these signs are caring, cautious and reserved. They’re service oriented and like to serve others and society as a whole. They’re also both devotional and desire to grow themselves towards higher spiritual expressions. Overall these two complement each other very well. Oh, and the sex is great!

Cancer

These two have their differences, but they’re complementary rather than being problematic. Powerful Scorpio makes soft and sensitive cancer feel secure and protected, physically and emotionally. Cancer’s natural propensity for devotion and a desire to please keeps Scorpio’s potential nervousness and jealousy in a relationship at bay. Both signs truly know how to nurture one another, which is important for both of them to have to be happy in a relationship. Overall, this is a pair that can last a lifetime.

Pisces

These two share a mystical, powerful connection. Scorpio is fascinated by mystery and otherworldliness. Pisces is essentially an embodiment of an otherworldly being. Sensitive Pisces is always trying to figure out how to be in the world. most days they might feel like drifting away into the abyss. Scorpio knows how to comfort and reassure Pisces in this way, all the while being fascinated about how they operate. Scorpio wants to be in charge and Pisces is happy to let Scorpio take charge. Both are fantastic caregivers for one another, Scorpio giving sensitive Pisces a sense of groundedness and safety in the world, while Pisces provides Scorpio with a soft soul to take care of as well as an embodied gateway into the transcendent.

Remaining signs.

What’s left are the fire signs, the air signs as well as the earthy Taurus and fellow Scorpio.

Scorpio can match decently with some of the remaining signs, and horribly with some others.

I won’t touch on the rest in this post, but you can find the standalone compatibility posts that compare Scorpio to each of the remaining signs.

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