So, you’ve started (or are about to start) dating a Sagittarius man. Good for you!
You should be in for a good time, as Sag men are typically fun, charming, intelligent, and endlessly entertaining. Dating a Sagittarius is pretty straightforward. He’s an easy going guy who just wants to adventure and have a pleasant experience.
But there are some important things you should know about him so you can ensure that your dates together go well.
In this post, I’ll be covering the most important dos and don’ts to give you the best chance with a Saggy guy. Read on!
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1.) Be open for anything
The Sagittarius man is restless, spontaneous and always on the hunt for something new and exciting to do. To be satisfied in a relationship he needs his lover to be the same, or at least game enough to accommodate his whims.
So to really catch his fancy you’ll need to be willing to get out of your comfort zone and try new things (and be enthusiastic about it, too).
Of course, this doesn’t mean you should let him push you into anything that you don’t want to (he likes a strong partner, after all). But it does mean you should do your best to be open to new experiences, (even if they make you a bit uncomfortable). He wants to see that you’re flexible and always looking to grow.
Rest assured that he is a great man to go out on a limb with, and will encourage you every step of the way.
2.) Showcase your intelligence
The Sagittarius man is a fire sign known for his physicality and lustfulness. But it’s intelligence that turns him on the most.
He is deeply philosophical and prizes all forms of knowledge. He wants a partner who is as knowledgeable as him, or close to it. In the least, his partner must be intellectually inclined, with a strong desire to broaden their mind.
While dating, you should make him feel like he can talk to you about anything. Be ready to engage in any topic that he touches on, and if you truly lack enough knowledge to contribute, at least be engaged and encourage his sharing.
3.) Keep things light
The Sag man prefers romance to be a light affair. Even in serious relationships, he doesn’t go too deep or seek to merge totally as the water signs do.
And because he’s wary of losing his freedom, relationships that feel heavy or consuming can feel like a threat to him. His independence is the most important thing to him, and he will lose interest if you signal that you’re trying to make things serious while still in the early stages of dating.
So when dating him you want to focus on keeping things light and fun. Don’t overcomplicate things, and don’t put pressure on him. Don’t talk about commitment, marriage, or meeting families. This is better left for him to initiate, and he will do this when he’s ready.
In a similar vein, avoid getting triggered by him or situations. He can be extra blunt sometimes, and it can hurt, but to attract him it is best if you can let any accidental insults roll off of you. Remember, light and fun, not serious or difficult for him to deal with (sorry, sensitive signs!).
4.) Surprise him
Sagittarius is a mutable sign, which means this guy loves novelty and unpredictability in all forms. He won’t date someone very long if they don’t excite him.
The best way to excite him is to keep him in suspense with calculated surprises. One way you can do this is by alternating your temperament – be cool, calm and under-expressed at some points, and outlandish, even a bit belligerent, at others.
Variability is key. Another strategy is to be intensely flirtatious on one occasion, to get him warmed up, and then become detached another. You don’t want to go too cold on him – you should still be a little coquettish, the key is making him now have to work for your attention. This man loves a good chase and hates when things come too easy.
Above all, keep him on his toes and his brain ticking. The key is to make your changeable modes fun and intriguing. If you’re choosing the date locations, switch things up often and avoid going to the same place twice, if you can. Also, try ordering something different or unusual every time.
5.) Emphasize your independence
One of the most important signals you can send to a Sagittarius man while dating is that you are strong and independent. He needs to feel independent in all phases of his life, no matter if he’s in a relationship or not, and strongly prefers his partner to be the same.
By showing him how comfortable you are being on your own, he’ll respect you and be able to relax around you. You can share this with him directly, or through stories and your actions.
You could show up early to a date and make friends with someone there. Or take him to a location that you often go by yourself. Anything that shows how comfortable you are doing your own thing.
Above all, display to him that you’re relaxed, fun, and don’t need him. Sag guys hate possessiveness, neediness, and jealousy in all forms, so you must innoculate against displaying these traits.
Don’t worry about him wondering if you’re not interested because of your relaxedness. He’ll know if you are, as he can easily differentiate between easygoing flirtatiousness and needy commital energy.
Bonus: Maintain a sense of mystery about you
The Sag man quickly tires of people that are predictable. Routine and stability do not excite him, as shown by his notorious habit of moving quickly from one partner to the next. The grass is often greener, to a Sag.
It can be a challenge, then, to maintain this man’s interest while dating. One of the best ways to combat his finicky love nature is to keep him constantly curious about you by envoloping yourself in mystery.
You do this by very slowly revealing yourself to him. Of course you can and should be playful, but do it with a hint of aloofness and nonchalance, like you have something hidden up your sleeve. You can show him contradictory sides to your nature, too, which would be sure to excite him. Drop small snippets about yourself, allude to exciting experiences you’ve had, but don’t be too specific. Constantly dressing differently creates the desired effect, as well. Just be sure to remain stylish and natural looking (he’s not fond of heavy make-up).
Just remember – if don’t share much about yourself at first, he can’t figure you out, which means he won’t grow bored of you. You represent something he cannot grasp or comprehend, and he has a fondness (you might say, weakness) for puzzles.
Hopefully, this guide helps you navigate your dates with the Sag man. For more in-depth information about attracting the Sagittarius man, you can read my eBook on the topic. It also contains some perfect date ideas and locations.
What are your experiences with dating a Sagittarius man? Let us know in the comment section below!